Blue October: Hate Me Meaning
Hate Me Lyrics
If your dreaming are you dreaming of me?
I can't believe you actually picked me.)
(”Hi Justin, this is your mother, and it's 2:33 on Monday afternoon.
I was just calling to see how you were doing.
anonymous Aug 9th, 2006 8:27am report
Justin has answered this question in interviews. His answers now tend to be vague because he doesn't want to force an interpretation on anyone, but when the album was new he was much more specific. He wrote this song originally about his ex-girlfriend. It was written to be a "please move on" song to her. While he was working on the song he got the voice-mail from his mom that you hear at the beginning, and realized that he had a lot more people to apologize to than just his ex, so he re-interpreted it as an apology to everyone that he'd put through hard times, including both his ex and his mom especially. Then the video director came up with the "it's too late, mom is dead" interpretation, but if you watch the video, the last scene she's actually alive and they're drinking iced tea together, so a little hint of hope at the end.
Long story short, if you are getting different interpretations of this song, it's because it has multiple meanings layered on top of each other. It is first an apology to his ex, second an apology to others he hurt by his behavior, and third as story about losing his mother.
anonymous Jun 19th, 2006 6:18pm report
Really I think the songself, minus the video is about a son (since the singer IS a guy) and his mum of course.
I think the son is basically saying that he has made his mother worry about him and his problems so much that she hasnt lived her own life to the fullest. He is telling her "move on, forget me and hate me so you can live" in my oppinion. The scenario of the video interprits the mother dying but I don't think the song nessicarily means that. When he says "just make her smile come back and shine like it used to be" he could also be meaning that his own depression, addictions and problems could have led her to her own depression.
tired from final exams so this was botched/
anonymous May 4th, 2006 5:24pm report
If you take a look at the video you will see that there is a mother character which interacts with the singer. If you listen to the album version of the song, you will also notice at the beginning of the song a phone message from a mother-type of character. (ie. wondering where he is, if he's ok. etc. and the voice is of an older woman) the beginning of the song talks about the blocking out thoughts of "you". much of the song is apologetic to in the way that he's saying, "leave me so that you can be better off". He talks about leaving so that "you" can be better. from what I can make of it, it's a song to his mother or perhaps someone who cared deeply for him. He's apologizing for the things he's done and is now realizing that he only causes trouble for her, so he's leaving. He has memories of her but ultimately wants her to forget him so that they can both move on with their lives.
anonymous May 15th, 2013 5:10pm report
Justin wrote Calling You for his girlfriend as a birthday present--while he was cheating on her the whole time. Hate Me was his apology song. I know this is true because I went to a concert and he told me this.
anonymous Dec 13th, 2012 12:23pm report
Even though I saw the interview of where Justin says its an apology song to everyone who he didn't treat so well when he was going through some personal issues (alcohol and whatever else,) I tend to agree with the top rated number 2 and 3.
And if anyone is interested, although she found him passed out on the floor, the grave was his mom's as the sign over it says in loving memory Ro-Anne Furstenfeld.
I think he is trying to make amends to her for all she did and all he put her through and he wants her to be happy before she dies (as she is alive in the end.)
anonymous Jul 24th, 2012 7:56pm report
He's apologizing to everyone he thinks he hurt.
anonymous Apr 7th, 2012 4:01am report
I think this is to his mother, he has suffered from depression. She has been his cheerleader, so to speak. She has been positive, but ineffective...he is still a depressed guy. He feels guilty about this, and she really cannot help. He wishes she would just hate him and then he wouldn't feel so guilty. He would rather she hate him and give up on him, let him just fade away...
Hate me today
Hate me tomorrow
Hate me for all the things I didn't do for you
Hate me in ways
Yeah ways hard to swallow
Hate me so you can finally see what’s good for you
The responsibility toward someone who loves him is more of a burden than just living with their hatred.
anonymous Jan 14th, 2012 1:33am report
This song reminds me of a friend of mine I really fell hard for; we dated off and on for a couple months. He finally ended it because we would go through cycles of being at the top of the world, and then come crashing down after a fight about something. For a while, I wondered if it would be better if he hated me, if none of it had ever happened, etc. The last verse gives me chills because as much as I "make a smile come back and shine the way things used to be," it's never going to be the same between us. I'm always going to have that little twinge in my heart when he brings up certain topics, a rush of resentment when he mentions others.
anonymous Dec 4th, 2011 12:54pm report
When I first heard this song, I thought of a best friend I had that I belive had Borderline Personality Disorder. (look it up). This song reminds be of what any kind of relationship or friendship with a borderline is like.
anonymous Nov 26th, 2011 11:57pm report
This song is originally about Justin disappointing his mother. If you listen to the full song with the tape record playing in the beginning, it's his mother leaving a message and wondering how Justin is doing with his rehab. The song IS about how he was addicted to drugs and his mother helped him off his addiction, ("I'm sober now, for three whole months, that's one accomplishment that you helped me with"). But he is telling his mother personally (inferred in the song): hate me so you can live happily, and don't die in disappointment in me.
Justin doesn't want his mom to die with such huge disappointment in him, so it's inferred she died in disappointment, which is what Justin doesn't want. And the whole "Hate me, today....Hate me tomorrow..." and the rest of the chorus is him telling his mother to hate him, and if she does hate him then she won't care and she wouldn't bother with him so she can be happy with her life and not in disappointment in him which Justin fears might happen.
In the end she loves him and she will never hate him because the love she has for her son Justin is very strong.
To me, the song envokes the same feelings that Hinder's 'Better Than Me' does ... a guy who screwed someone over who was always there for him and forced an end to it for the better of that other person. The song is raw and powerful, but seems to end on a strong note because the storyteller is seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
The lead singer reveals the meaning behind the song in a 2006 interview that can be read at:
anonymous Jun 23rd, 2011 6:20am report
Its all about his drug or drinking addiction. His mother calls in the beginning which she never gives up on him. Wants to know if shes ok. He talks the first paragraph about what he is going through with quiting his addiction. Then second paragraph talks about how his mom is there know matter what he went through, suicide, etc. Last paragraph he talks about trying to get rid of it and why won't it go away. Hate me today, he hates himself and tomorrow because he can't stop. But his loved ones still love him even though they hate his addiction.
anonymous Apr 19th, 2011 4:44am report
this song is about how a son has caused his mother to have alot of pain. the song is telling the mother to move on and forget al that he has done to her. in the song the son doent want to think about the things that he's done and his mother. he also thanks his mother for sticking with him when he was having a "war" with himself.
anonymous Mar 26th, 2011 3:28pm report
In my interpretation and from previous experiences, I think this song is about someone thanking another person for everything but basically saying hate me and forget it all, because you deserve way better... even though you helped me with so much, I just want you to have the best. The person still loves the other and they with they were yours, but I just want you to be happy with someone who won't hurt you like I did.. because all you ever did was give me the best, and you deserve the best. So just forget me because I never gave you that.
anonymous Mar 12th, 2011 3:49am report
Hate me is a song to his mother he wrote this to her as he was trying to get over her death it a good-bye song.
anonymous Feb 23rd, 2011 2:41pm report
He is bipolar and explains how when he is in a deep depression and feels like everyone hates him and how he pushed his loved ones away and isolated I relate and felt the same way. I am bipolar and have been in and out of institutions my whole life is there any one that hears it that same way if so please let me know
anonymous Jan 26th, 2011 1:10pm report
After watching the video, I have come to this conclusion. The voice recorder he has represents those that care for him, and the mother mentions he was "really uptight". When he walks through house, he sees scenes of his life, including one with his mother holding him close and shaking him. The narrator is dead, and the character in black with the answering machine is his ghost.
The song is an apology for all the things he did when he was living, and he's trying to move on and leave his mother behind so she can become happy once more. "Kicking shadows on the street for every mistake I have made" suggests his inability to touch and different things.
He's also apologizing for leaving his mother like he did. But, overall, he thinks it's better, although he regrets giving her pain and wants her to hate him for it, so he can move on without feeling more guilty for causing her pain.
The voice recorder represents the people he cares about/those that care for him. The grave he drops it on is his, and he's leaving his people behind to find a better life.
anonymous Jan 7th, 2011 1:48pm report
To me the meaning of this song (To me) is about struggling with bipolar and manic depression. I myself am bipolar and I struggle, I say things I don't mean, I hurt the people I love the most, and it hurts me more than it hurts them. I get mad and cant control myself and wind up in shit piles past my head, and I struggle with depression. And my mom has helped me and my sibling so much.And I don't know what I would do without her.
I just went through a hard break up. I still love them, in fact I never loved anyone more (other than family of course) and I messed up bad, and I can't take back anything I said. And all I want for them is to be happy even if it means I'm not around. Lke in the part of the song where it says. "So I'll drive so fuckin far away that I'll never cross your mind, and do whatever it takes in your heart to leave me behind."
This song has soo much meaning it's crazy.
But this is too all people who struggle with being bipolar, we've all been there done that. Go to your mother/mother figure, she'll be there.
anonymous Dec 24th, 2010 12:12pm report
Ok so blue october is from houston as am i, i use to sing along side justin when ttew were no one. I know what th song is about because justin told me... it is about his mother passing and his regrets. And just a interesting tid bit they are named blue october because justin o.d.'d on heroin in october, when you o.d. on heroin you turn blue... i know his monna she lived here in houston till whe passed. Sh is missed she as an amazing woman...
"""His Mother and himself are the same person; she symolizes the side he is while on drugs."""
The phonecall at the beginning is from his Mother reminding him to take his 'Meds'.... (I have to block out thoughts of you so I don't lose me head, they crawl in like a cockroach leaving babies in my bed)...
Hate me so you can finally see what's good for you... He's convincing himself he needs to hate her, although she's been with him for awhile.
'Will you never call again' (urges to use again)
anonymous May 12th, 2010 5:56pm report
this song is a song that my brother says relates to his life. so the way i see it is like this... the guy has drug and alcohol problems, his mom always tried to help and he always pushed her away. "and with a sad heart i say bye to you..." he finally gets taken away. however you want to interpret that. i think that he got like put in prison. but then again i only see it as my brother. and now he is saying its okay to hate me because you tried so hard and i never thought to thank you. and then in the end (not in the son) he changes for the better :)
anonymous Jan 1st, 2010 1:02am report
This song makes me want to cry. In the very beginning of the song is a voice singing the words to Blue October's song Calling You...what is that for? Is this song an extension of what happens after the song Calling You?
anonymous Nov 13th, 2009 11:57am report
I am bipolar and I live that song so often in my life that it kills me. I attempt to suicide, I tried to run far away from my mom for all the pain that I cause to her, so she can forget me and live that life she deserve. My disease is making her so worried at all time, anxious, sick. I am like a bomb waiting to explode. I want her so bad to be there for me, I need her help but I still leave her alone and run away each time I see that I cause her a lot of pain because of my bad behaviors... (drug, alcool, suicide, depression, maniac periods, ...) I love her and she loves me. I can't live without her, she can't live without me. Whatever happens, we always come back together. Bipolar is a big fight for me and for all friends and family around me. That song describe very well the suffering of a person living with mental illness and the impact on people around.
I think the 1st verse explain how it makes him sick to have her around when he feels depressive cause he knows he's going to hurt her somehow. Whatever she does, he will still be alone, nobody can understand that need of being alone. How deep he is suffering. It makes him sick to act this way and run away from her, BURNING IN MY PRIDE, and the NERVOUS BLEEDING IN MY BRAIN shows he is getting really bad and depressive, he is ashame that he can't control himself, plus... depression is related to some liquids nonfunctional in the brain... He's getting insane!
The chorus means he wants her to hate him, so she finally be able to live her life without carrying his pain. HATE ME FOR ALL THE THINGS I DIDNT DO FOR YOU : even a phone call is to hard to make when you feel that depress... you can't do anything for anyone. The only place left is for the suffer. Hell is the only thing you think of. And that is why you get into drugs, alcools, sex, games...
Verse 2, she's still there for him even if he SEEMS like he didn't care. Because of her love, and his love for her, he gets sober. He don't want to touch drugs again, he don't want to hurt her even more. He wants to try, he wants to get better. He hopes he can get out of that depression and all that suffering caused by mental illness. While he was depress, suffering, wishing to die, hating himself.. She still stay beside him trying to get over that bad time he has to get throught... and he thanks her cause without her, he would be dead. He finaly gets better, but he knows it will come back again, so that is why he wants to drive far away, to deliver her from that pain that is coming back again, soon or later.
He then says he never been a man because he never acted like one, he never controled himself for all those dramatic reaction he always live with, he never got help, he never grown up, he never took the decision of fighting in the good way. Until he realize how deep his problem, his disease is killing himself and people around him. He realize he don't know how to control those feelings, this anxiety, this hell... MAKE IT GO AWAY... make all that pain go away, he ask for help. He don't know how to make it go away. JUST MAKE A SMILE COME BACK AND SHINE JUSTE LIKE IT USED TO BE... cause there IS some good period when everything feels ok... and he wants to find it back again... AND THEN SHE WHISPERED HOW CAN YOU DO THIS TO ME depression is coming back and some more attempt to suicide and pain... She finally give up and ask him to do something before it really gets too late. She can't stand that suffering anymore. She knows next time, he maybe die, and that would kill her.
And finaly in the video, you see he goes in the cimetary with the phone (that represents his mother, we know that because of the message she left at the beginning - talking about his meds, probably due to depression or mentall illness cause when we get high, we sometime thinks that we are fine so we stop taking them, and then hell comes back...) so he goes in the cimetary with the phone, prooving he is conscious of the gravity of the situation, he is killing himself and killing his mother.
But at the end, we see them together at the restaurant. So we can presume that they finaly won the fight. And everything is getting better.
My interpretation, listening to this song as a bipolar.
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