stjimmysdisciple February 9th, 2006 12:59PM  
I've heard many interpretations of this song, in terms of who the singer is... meaning which character in the scenario he is voicing. I've heard everything from the groom to the pastor to the waiter, but no one seems to address the line "Yes, but what a shame, the poor groom's bride is a whore." with any detail, other than the obvious 'the bride has a secret lover(s)'. What if the singer's character is the bride's secret lover? That seems to make the most sense:
He is pacing the back of the church, some bizarre reason in his head for watching his lover marry another man.
He overhears the conversation between the bridesmaid and the waiter, realizes that their secret has been let out, and bursts in saying "Haven't you people ever heard of closing a goddamn door?". The bridesmaid responds with the "No, it's much better to face these kinds of things with a sense of poise and rationality", indicating that secrets like this must come out because they're the kind of secrets that eat you alive and destroy marriages.
After it's all said and done, he realizes that he just exposed the secret, and maybe they didn't know to begin with, and either way, the groom is sure to find out - it's just driving him insane, the moment ringing through his head, replaying over and over, hence the multiple repetitions of the chorus.
The slightly sarcastic tone on the "technically our marriage is saved" line could indicate that the groom is saying it to the bride after he finds out about her secret lover, or to the lover himself, in that same mocking tone. I get the impression the groom leaves the bride because, well, she doesn't love him anyway if she's off with her lover.

anonymous February 17th, 2006 10:47PM  
I think it's from the groom's perspective. The waiter says the bride's a whore, and he overhears. He's upset because he thinks he would have been better off not knowing.

Then he says "Technically our marrige is saved." As in he's saved from making a mistake. It seems to be pretty bitter, so that makes the most sence to me.

annamal February 23rd, 2006 10:26AM  
I think that the song is written from the perspective of the groom - for example,
the pacing the pews in the church could represent before the wedding, and how nervous the groom is before his wedding, because people tend to pace when they are nervous.
And I think that the groom overhears the bridesmaid and the waiter talking about how the bride is a whore, and didn't want to hear other people talking about his wife being a whore, because he believes it not to be true, so he 'chimes' in with "haven't you people ever heard of closing the god damn door", technically, he's angry because he only finds out on his wedding day, supposedly the happiest day of his life.

I think that the marriage has been saved because the groom realises that his fiance is a whore, and called off the wedding, and is being sarcastic when he says "this calls for a toast" I think the repetition of the chorus :

"I'd chime in "Haven't you people ever heard of closing a goddamn door?!"
No, it's much better to face these kinds of things with a sense of poise and rationality.
I'd chime in "Haven't you people ever heard of closing a goddamn door?!"
No, it's much better to face these kinds of things with a sense of poise and rationality." really accentuates the fact that the groom is very upset about the whole thing, and that he has had to call his wedding off, and that he wishes he hadn't known about the fact his wife is a whore.

anonymous April 1st, 2006 12:59AM  
I think the first one is perfect except for two things.
First of all the singer (Brent Willson) does NOT say "I chime in with a haven't you ppl ever heard of closing a godamn door" If you LISTEN CLOSLY you realize that he says "I'D chime in with a haven't you ppl ever heard of closing a godamn door" Secondly....it's NOT the bride who sais "NO, it's much beter to face these kinds of things with a sense of poise and rationality" it is the singer (wich I have no clue what person he is supposed to represent) who sais that..........seeeeeeeeeeee!!....now is when it all comes together.... He is ABOUT to "chime in"(bust through the church doors) and scream "Havent you ppl ever heard of closing a godamn door!" BUT...he stops himself and tells himself (probably in his head) wait that it's much better to face thesekinds of things with a sense of poise and rationality" Basically telling himself that...............wait a second (just so you know this has absolutly nothing to do with the song) I just screwed up on somthing bigtime.........darnit...screw this...furget everything I just told you (darnit this really sucks)

anonymous April 1st, 2006 02:23AM  
I just went on a website and on a VIDEO Brendon HIMSELF sais that the person he plays is the grooms conscience! Go on the website "www.fueledbyramen.com/adam/mtv/panic.mov" wow this really cleares things up. So when they say "I'd chime in with a haven't you people ever heard of closing a godamn door NO, it's much better to face these kinds of things with a sense of poise and rationality" It's really the grooms conciance telling him that they (the bridesmaid and waiter) could be a bit more Quiet and then he tells himself that he should face these things head on("No, it's much better to face these kindsof things with a sence of poise and rationality"). Brendon also says that the grooms conciance is telling him that this girls not the one for him and that the brides family is wack-o. Doesn't this really clear things up, especially the music video. Wow...this is so-o awesome!

rockstar_mulatto May 10th, 2006 05:05PM  
It seems so simple... There is a rumor going around the wedding that the bride is a whore. In the video, the groom soon discovers it for himself... and he says 'our marriage is saved' because he's glad he didn't end up in a relationship with a woman who would break his heart by fooling around...

anonymous May 19th, 2006 12:31AM  
If you have actually read the interview with brendon WHO ACTUALLY SINGS!!! some person seemed to think that brent wilson is the singer when actually he is the BASS PLAYER.

Anyway Brendon is saying how his character is the groom's conscience. The groom is trying to deny how slutty his future wife is. He overhears what the waitor and the bridesmaid sais but he tries to ignor it. The conscience (Brendon) is trying to get him to realise that she is a slut and "it's much better to face these kind of things with a sense of poise and rationality" instead of denying it all.

so basically brendon is the grooms consience and just tried to get the groom to admit that his wife is a slut who will just end up hurting him.

AND FOR THE RECORD BRENT IS THE BASS PLAYER

BRENDON IS THE SINGER!!!!!!!!

anonymous June 17th, 2006 07:31PM  
I think it's about the groom, the singer mocking the people who said the bride was a whore. "no it's much better to face these kinds of things..." It doesn't matter if those people said that or not, because they are still being sort of two faced by showing up at the wedding and then gossiping behind the couple's back. The groom sees this and is just like "between you two who would keep this a secret and between my fiance". Then he reflects a moment, and thinks "technically our marrige is saved", from the family who said it wouldn't last. Because they will never be married, they will never have a divorce, technically.

anonymous July 3rd, 2006 05:30PM  
I think that the singer is posed as the groom's conscious. As the groom is waiting for the bride he over hears a whispering conversation between one of the bride's maids and a waiter. The waiter says that the groom's bride is a whore and the groom just brushes it off his shoulder. After a lot of confusion the bride runs away and the groom catches (I am using the music video to interpret) a glimpses of a young man run after her. He at first doesn't want to come to any conclusions but his conscious pulls him to go and see if the young man running after his bride has any relevance. He finds that his soon to be wife was a whore and she is not going to marry him, but stay with her lover. And technically there marriage was saved because they didn't get married.

imXjustXme July 8th, 2006 03:05PM  
I think it's the singer's point of view not the grooms because it says "As I'm pacing the pews in a church corridor
And I can't help but to hear
No, I can't help but to hear an exchanging of words

"What a beautiful wedding
What a beautiful wedding," says a bridesmaid to a waiter
"And, yes, but what a shame
What a shame the poor groom's bride is a whore."
if the groom over heard them saying that he wouldnt still be happy about getting married so since the singer heard that he came in to show the groom what he's about to do. He ruined the wedding by making her mad about all the action going on so she left then the guy in the audience went with her and the groom got a confused look so the singer took the groom and showed him what kind of girl the bride really is

anonymous July 9th, 2006 03:54AM  
ok here is the deal! there r a lot of people who say that the singer is deffinately not playing the part of the groom!!! well y not, juss b because they think the groom couldnt b pacing the pews in a church corridor! well agan I ask y no, he could b nervous about the wedding and then he is pacing the pews of a church corridor thinking about the wedding because he is NERVOUS! anyway, I think the singer is playing the part of the groom because like I said before, he could b nervous so he is pacing the church and he happens 2 overhear the waiter and the bridesmaid saying things about his bride 2 b, things indicating that the bride has been cheting on the groom! then the groom gets upset ant tells them basically that next time they should close the door! they then tell him that it is much better 2 face these things with a sense of poise and rationality meaning that he had 2 find out! then now that he has found out he is being sarcastic and letting the bride kno that he knows by saying "look at it this way, I mean technically our marriage is saved" by this he means well now we hav just saved ourselves from what probably would have been the worst mistake of his life!!! well, that is my opinion on what this song means.

anonymous July 9th, 2006 02:23PM  
Geez.....does anyone in here know how to spell properly or has everyone only mastered spelling up to the second grade! Learn how to spell before you try to articulate something and then get back to me.

poppers July 13th, 2006 04:32PM  
I think that when he says "I'd chime in with a haven't you people ever hear of closing the goddamn door" he means that he is mad that when the wedding guest opened the door to the church, they forgot to close it! those assholes!

bf25... July 16th, 2006 05:50PM  
I think the singer is just a guest at the wedding and he overhears the waiter and bridesmaid saying that the bride is a whore and he says to close the door beacause he doesn't want to hear it and realizes that maybe he d should stop denying it and maybe just accept it when he says ''its much better to face these kinds of things with a snese of poise and rationality'' and maybe once he realizes that ''his marriage is saved''

anonymous July 17th, 2006 03:42PM  
The first time I listened to this song it was just.. Wow.. That makes no sence at all! But after listening to it some more I figure::

the speaker is the groom

"what a shame, the poor groom's bride is a whore." kk I figure that the bride is cheating on the speaker/groom right?

"haven't you people ever heard of closing the god damn door?!" well the speaker/groom walks in on the bride cheating on him. So obviously that is quite shocking but the groom says:

"no, it's much better to face these kinds of things with a sense of poise and rationality." poise means: 'freedom from affectation or embarrassment' obviously a situation like that would be extremly embarrasing! And to be rational means 'having reason or understanding' so he's trying to understand y in gods name is my to-be wife screwing this other guy??!! So to cover this up he says:

"well I'll look at it this way, I mean technically our marriage is saved." better to find out about this before they got married right?

Yea I donno if that is like totally out there to you.. But that's what I got out of the song. :) I'll come on back and read what other people have got to say later

peace out!

anonymous July 20th, 2006 07:50PM  
It's a pretty easy song to understand. And if the lyrics aren't clear if you watch the music video then you should be able to get it.

A guys getting married but he finds out on his wedding day that his bride is cheating on him.

anonymous July 22nd, 2006 12:09AM  
I agree it is groom, I think the groom is pacing before his wedding and overhears this conversation between bridesmaide and waiter. After he hears that someone called his wife a whore he gets angry n says "haven't you ever heard of...." but deep inside him he faces a battle to calm down n think about this situation. Then the next verse talks about the marriage being saved. I think it means he must have thought about it rationally and because he did the wedding went through. Also since the title is I write sins not tragedies I think that means that talking about someone is a sin but the wedding wasn't called off so it wasn't a tragedy!! W

anonymous July 27th, 2006 12:47AM  
I believe this song is about transvestites decieving people and getting their lives taken from them.

anonymous July 28th, 2006 12:40PM  
Grooms perspective. End of story. Very obvious

anonymous July 30th, 2006 04:55AM  
Decent enough song...But I have to agree with the person that said this song doesn't deserve an interpretation. Is it really that deep or interesting?!
So wadda' ya' say we call this one a wrap and get back to breaking down, in agonizing detail, the subtleties and nuances of a hillary duff song...At the very least it would be equally deserving!