Evanescencefreak August 14th, 2006 02:24PM  
I think this song is about abuse, no matter who it may be towards.Yes, he said he was literally talking about his family, but I think this song could be realted to by anyone who is abused in anyway.

anonymous August 18th, 2006 10:46PM  
Yea this song was about him and a few other band members....Wich he didn't name......And he said he saw that form of abuse when he stopped for a cigarette or went to a store. And it was very common where he lived...

"Where I come from, you see it when you go to the store, you see it when you stop for a smoke, you see it all the time," winter says. "it’s something everybody sees and doesn’t do anything about because they’re just so accustomed to it. I was the same way and I was a victim of it. So the best way I could think of to get people to not make the same mistake I did was to write about it."

yea that's what I know about the song....

MCRfreek13 March 28th, 2007 04:04PM  
This song is about abuse, a girl who is in an abusive relationship and feels like she has no power and can't brek up with him. "tells herslf it's never gonna happen again" she convinces herself that everything is okay and nothin bad will ever happen between her and her boyfriend again.

The lead singer of the red Jumpsuit apparatus is saying how it drives him crazy to see a beautiful girl and she is being mistreated nadhe can't stand to see her like that. So he stands up for her "do you feel like a man hen you push her around do you feel better now? she falls o the ground" and he is in love with her.

OldNo7 April 23rd, 2007 03:31PM  
It doesn't get any more literal than this. How can there possibly be any debate over the meaning?

anonymous February 11th, 2008 05:26PM  
Alright, anyone who just points to the music video and says, "It's about a woman being abused." Yes, we understand that, but music videos don't always clarify what the subject is. The song "Lying is the most fun a girl can have without taking her clothes off," has a music video, but it doesn't relate to the song at all.

The song is originally written for Ronnie Winter's mother, who was abused by his father. Yet it showed the thoughts of Ronnie while he witnessed abuse.

The song has many meanings, but the main topic is abuse. I think we all clarified that already.

But I DID want to clarify that the specific family member was his mother. ;)

♥Anna♥

anonymous May 13th, 2008 11:52PM  
This song is exactly what it seems. It's a song Ronnie wrote about what he saw growing up...It's about a woman being abused and coming to the point where she's had enough, and she leaves her abuser.. That's what the woman in the video is symbolizing when she throws out the pic of her w/ her boyfriend.

emo_scremo94 July 24th, 2008 07:04PM  
I think this guy is in love with this woman which he finds out that her boyfriend hits her. She thinks he loves her but this guy tells her she can have a different life. One day while her boyfriend hits her she tells herself she is tired of it. It's just like my mom's story.

pencilsharpener January 18th, 2009 08:00AM  
A woman has an abusive boyfriend and still loves him so she won`t leave and acts like it never happens so the band is asking do you feel like a man when you push her around do you feel better now as she falls to the ground

ilovejaocbyshaddix March 8th, 2009 09:35PM  
this song is about a girl who gets abused by her boyfriend. shes so afraid to leave him becuase she thinks he'll change; "tell yourself its never gonna happen again" but at the end, she realizes that what she's going through is not okay and she doesnt deserve to deal with it. so she leaves him.

anonymous May 5th, 2009 11:04AM  
I think everyone is over looking the part that says, "Facedown in the dirt she says, this doesn't hurt she says, I've finnaly had enough." I beleive this part isn't saying she walked away. I believe it is saying HE is the one facedown in the dirt. She had enough of it, took him out and "It doesn't hurt" emotionally for him to be gone or for having done it.

octanedude45 July 6th, 2009 09:30PM  
personally i believe that is almost an observation.... in my opinion the narrator is someone who has an incredibly close relationship with this girl and is trying to help her get out of this abusive relationship (heed my lecture) but the girl is trying her absolute best to convince herself that it wont ever happen again but she cant let her family find out (cover up with makeup in the mirror tell yourself its never gonna happen again)... the narrator realizes that there isnt a way he can get her to break up with him so he confronts the abuser (do you feel like a man when you push her around?... and so on through the rest of the chorus).... please note that this is a personal opinion and that i have no evidence to back it up

bwaygurl123 August 27th, 2009 01:39PM  
When I listen to this song I think of my friend and how she constantly stays in her relationship...I agree that I think its more of an observation as if he is a close friend or family member of the girl...The video is just to interpret the song visually...I think the song is very powerful...The reason why I think its an observation is because of the first few words of the song..."Hey girl you know you drive me crazy"...and so on...till "I see whats going down"...Hes observing the situation at hand...The words that really got me was "You cry alone and then he swears he loves ya"...Its very personal because I observe this in my friend's relationship...she sits in her house crying and then her boyfriend calls still saying he loves her and he acts like nothing is wrong...The chorus is also pretty powerful as if he is standing up for her and talking to the guy who abused the girl...The second verse starting with "A pebble in the water makes a ripple effect" all the way to "I see whats going down" is another observation but more of a general observation rather than focusing only on the problem at hand...It more like a cross reference...To me " a pebble in the water..." means you can't hide the abuse forever...someone is gonna find out just like someone knows something is in the water when they see the ripple effect..."every action in this world will bear a consequence"...He's gonna get what he deserves..."If you wade around forever you will surely drown"...Stay with him and its gonna continue...Your gonna drown in his lies over and over of how he loves you but still hits you...Face down in the dirt she says this doesn't hurt...she says I finally had enough...its like a declaration of her freedom from this boy who abused...shes abused to the point where its doesn't even hurt and she's tired of it...I love this song because its so real...it makes so much sense and I only hope people in the same situation will "finally have enough"