anonymous 2006-10-01 23:09:55    

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I belive that this song is about a son that has been doing drugs or drinking alcohol for a long time and has caused problems for his mother. He has been sober for a few months but he still feels guilty about all that he has done and doesn't think that he will be able to make it through. He is apologizing to his mother for all the trouble that he has caused and is about to cause. I also think that he is about to commit suicide to make his mom feel better. And so she doesn't have to worry he is writing this song to tell her that he is sorry and he is doing this for her so things will be better. I think by the end of the song he actually kills himself and his mom is calling for him.

anonymous 2006-10-03 03:35:05    

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"I think the song is about either the son or the mother passing away. The son committed suicide from all of his troubles and wants the mother to forget about him. Or the mother died and the song is apologizing to her. He is so hurt that he doesn't want to think of her"

it's about a son and mother~in the end the mother dies.

anonymous 2006-10-03 22:12:24    

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The song's about his mother and justin's relationship. He was in a 12 step drug addiction program and feels as though he's ruined their relationship.

anonymous 2006-10-11 23:49:43    

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I saw the video for this song and I was really confused until I was just listening to it: in the video the singer is singing to an "older" woman (I think to be his mother), and you see him at a graveyard looking at a casket or tomb I can't remember which and he says "ill drive so ****ing far away" I think he's committed suicide (u you never doubted my warped opinions about suicide or hate; the two things the song is about) and he wants his mom to hate him so she won't miss him because he hated himself and just hurt her.

anonymous 2006-10-16 18:21:57    

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The song is about justin(lead singer) having a dream about his brain melting. When he woke up it was reality. In the video,he's lying on the floor with his mom holding his head and crying. That's when he lost it. In the song were it says "you never doubted my warped oppinions on things like suicide or hate" he's talking about how she was an influence on him staying alive. Also the song is an appology to all tne people he wronged while he was in rehab or some kind of place like that. I know that part is true because it was in one of the additions of revolver magazine. It's true I didn't check though. Don't really feel like it. Revolver's awsome. It's true,i checked.




Macayla

anonymous 2006-10-18 17:48:17    

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Let's stop being idiotic. The song is not about his mother dying. The interpretation from 08/09/2006 at (I think) 11:27 was correct. The bit from his mother in the beginning just got thrown in with the song during editing. Those of you who know this song only by the video, and not by being an actual blue october fan, are ridiculous. Anyone who is a blue october fan knows the true origin of this song.

morgothraptor 2006-10-20 02:03:20    

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I listened to justin's (lead singer) interpretation of hate me on blue october's myspace page, and the song to him is about all his life having such a great mother, and all he does is take advantage of that love and fuck up a lot. The video progresses from the bed to the funeral, where his mother has died and he is remembering how much he didn't appreciate it, and how he wants all the pain to fall on him, i.E. To "hate me". However, by the end of the video, he is actually eating dinner on the patio with his mother. Justin says this video shows his real life, except his mother is actually alive, which means he can make their relationship right, and that hypothetically if his mother had died all that guilt would have driven him crazy. He's saying "don't treat your mother like this or she'll be gone before you can make it right."

anonymous 2006-10-25 06:57:03    

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I do think it's about his mother. I think he cared deeply for her and maybe she passed and there's some things he wishes he could have told his mother before but now he lets it out and says the best way to move on is to hate me that way he won't be cared about and have to remember. Really touching song..

anonymous 2006-10-29 15:03:51    

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In the album version you hear the phone message
that his moms leaves, and then you can hear like
kids saying "cant beleive your dead, dead, dead".
And then the song starts.

Makes me wonder if his mother died, because at the end of the song there's "just make her smile come back and shine just like it used to be"

anonymous 2006-11-02 14:39:17    

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It's about her son being an alcoholic, and never returned her calls, or talked to her much, and then when he finally decided to get sober, was when he came to reality when she died.("I’m sober now for 3 whole months it’s one accomplishment that you helped me with, the one thing that always tore us apart is the one thing I won’t touch again")

it's pretty obvious.
Angele.

anonymous 2006-11-05 03:40:16    

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The interpretation done by macayla on 10-16-2006 at 18:21 is perfect. The article explaining this by Justin himself is also in guitar world issued october 2006.

anonymous 2006-11-14 23:04:08    

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So I want to say that the music video doesn't fit this song at all. This cd(foiled) is about a man leaving his girlfriend(whom he loves) because he's bad for her, and eventually moving on and realizing there are better girls out there for him.
This song does start with the lead singer's mother calling because she's concerned about him, but the song isn't about her. The song is about jason(the lead singer) cutting ties with his girlfriend, and wanting her to hate him so that she won't want to be with him and end up ruining her own life.

anonymous 2006-11-15 19:50:57    

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I think the song is about a guy addicted to drugs, alcohol, or both,telling his mother or girlfriend(depending on the listener's interpretation)to move on with their life because he's a lost cause.He wants to be sober, or maybe is now, but knows that he has caused to much pain to them.He just can't be the person he knows they want him to be and is sorry for putting them through hell because of it.If they would "hate him", he wouldn't be a burden to them, and he wouldn't feel so guilty.

anonymous 2006-11-17 18:54:26    

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... a survivor of abuse.

anonymous 2006-11-17 19:01:22    

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"Hate me so you can finally see whats good for you"

... a survivor of abuse ... (talking about that abuse, weaved and intertwined in the lyricists mature experience).

anonymous 2006-11-20 02:04:40    

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Ok. So I realize that the song is "actually" about his mother. but that doesn't mean everyone pulls their own meanings from it.

I'm just going to go over some parts of the song and give my interpretations.
(I pull the meaning as being a breakup, as this is what I'm thinking about in my life right now)

"There's a burning in my pride, a nervous bleeding in my brain
An ounce of peace is all I want for you. will you never call again?
And will you never say that you love me just to put it in my face?
And will you never try to reach me? it is I that wanted space" to me this part screams breakup, a burning pride being the humiliation that comes along with doing something really stupid. and the fact that he sounds shocked that she "will never say that you love me, just to throw it in my face" says to me that he was expecting a retaliation and instead got silence.

My favourite part is the second verse
"the one thing that always tore us apart is the one thing I won't touch again." says, to me, that he's looking back and realizing how much this person has actually given him.

the most personal section of this song for me.
"While I was busy waging wars on myself you were trying to stop the fight.
you never doubted my warped opinions on things like suuicidal hate,
You made me comliment myself when it was just too hard to take."
this holds particular meaning with me, because I recently had a friend trying to help me. who I failed.
the final verse is the deal closer.
not only is it the ideal wording for making someone hate you so that they can move on, it's better to make them hate you "in ways hard to swallow" so that they can finally "see what's good for [them]".
that's just my longwinded interpretation.
hope it held some meaning for someone out there.

anonymous 2006-11-23 00:20:29    

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I think the song is talking about both his mother and his girlfriend the first thing is the message from his mother then it talks about replaying movies in his brain that make a porno feel at home I think the song is like a suicide letter and he's telling them to forget and "hate" him for all the things he put them though.

anonymous 2006-11-24 01:54:42    

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I believe he is singing about a woman that he loved and that loved him in return. This woman broke up with Justin, because of his drinking problem. There is evidence that it is her who in fact broke up in the lyrics: "And will you never say that you loved me just to put it in my face? ... It is I that wanted space!" She broke up saying that she loved him... It is also true that she broke up with him not because she didn't love him but because of a mistake he made - possibly doing something while drunk. He realizes his many mistakes and believes it is better for her to never see him again. If you think that the song is talking about a mother dying or a son hurting his mother. Why would he be seeing movies in his head about his mother that make a porno feel like home? That seems morally wrong...

FinalOblation 2006-11-25 08:57:26    

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What everyone is saying about how this is about his mother could be true, and the mom at the beginning is a good hint towards that. But, that part that gets me is if you actually listen to the song lyrics and read the song lyrics by themselves that message seems a little unlikely during a couple of spots. I am going to have to lean more towards the idea of a break up. just little things like "I have to block out thoughts of you so I don’t lose my head" sons and mother's don't usually have this issue, and for those of you that say "it's because she is dead if you listen to the end of the song he is driving far away so he never crosses their mind. Also if a son is having thoughts of his mom that "make a porno feel like home" I think that could be potentially illegal in most states. Moms don't typically have the affect of inflicting a burning pride. Also if a son kicked his drug habit he would be going after his mom's attention and she would be proud of him, but if it were an ex girlfriend that is still hung up on him and he sees himself as a bad emotional investment he may say something like "And do whatever it takes in your heart to leave me behind"

anonymous 2006-12-08 14:02:57    

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Lets look at the facts. In the message at the begining of the song the message is from his mom and that is clearly stated. She says "Hi Justin, this is your mother, and it's 2:33 on Monday afternoon.
I was just calling to see how you ware doing.
You sounded really uptight last night.
It made me a little nervous, and a l... and... well... It made me nervous, it sounded like you were nervous, too.
I just wanted to make sure you were really OK,
And wanted to see if you were checking in on your medication.
You know I love you, and...
Take care honey
I know you're under a lot of pressure.
See ya. Bye bye"
In the first verse he says "And will you never say that you love me just to put it in my face?"
Could have some connection to the message.
He may have been doing drugs when he was a teenager and that seems to make a teen spend a lot of time in their room away from the parents and that might have been "The one thing that always tore us apart."
As for the grave in the end of the video, all we know about on that tape was a recording from his mother and it seems only fitting that the grave be hers. One more piece of information that proved that his mother died was the fact that he was having flashbacks of all the nice things she had done for him. THERE IS NO EX-GIRLFRIEND!