Kelly Clarkson: Because of You Meaning
Song Released: 2005
Download "Because of You" on MP3:Download MP3 from Amazon
Download MP3 from iTunes
Because of You Lyrics
I will not let myself
Cause my heart so much misery
I will not break the way you did,when
You fell so hard
I've learned the hard way
To never let it get that far
Because of you
anonymous Jan 6th, 2006 1:52am report
I can tell you exactically what the song is about because I heard it from the horses mouth. At Kelly's "Behind These Hazel Eyes" concert, I was able to go backstage and see Kelly. When I asked her what (my favorite song) Because of You was about, she told me that she wrote it when she was 16, and it was "sort of a diary entry at first". She said that she comes from a broken family, like many children around America, and she wrote it about her parents divorce. She also commented that she doesn't think that adults realize the effect divorce has on children. She told me that she didn't want anyone to think she was sad or depressed - that writing the song was the way she got over the depression of her parents divorce. She'd gotten a lot of fanmail regarding the topic of divorce, and she said that she thoguht maybe God had her write the song in hopes that children who were dealing with the issue of divorce could relate to it; and, that the song could possibily help them like it helped her. She also said (in an interview - not to me this time) that she discussed releasing the song with her family and, although the song covers a painful territory, they also thoguht the song was better to be out -possibily helping people, than stuck in some notebook. Anyways, hopefully that helps.
"Because of You" is about the negative legacies parents leave their children with. They enforce their ideas and bad experiences they've had on their kids without realising the true impact of their words. It's about the vulnerability they create within their children. It's about the way Kelly has been influenced by her mother leaning on her in a way that a child shouldn't have to deal with. I believe Kelly wrote this song for the future generations when we have children. To make people understand the true impact their words have on their children and to tell us it's not ok; kids need stability and encouragement to go out and experience things for ourselves.
anonymous Oct 24th, 2005 10:45pm report
It seems to be about a child seeing the break down of her family, and her mother not being a mother. The whole thing seems to be the fact that she is her mother, someone who will not let others in.
anonymous Nov 19th, 11:47pm report
I think it means she was in an abusive relationship (with a boyfriend, a parent, etc.) or that her relationship or family was otherwise really hurtful and left her with a bad legacy, so now because of them, she "is afraid".
anonymous Jul 10th, 7:29am report
The video to this song always makes me cry. I come from a divorced home & so I can really relate to her memories. I too vowed not to ever get a divorce. However, I did not choose my 1st husband wisely: as I should have: & he ended up divorcing me. Fortunately though, no offspring resulted. I married my 2nd husband about 3 & 1/2 years later. What makes me cry so much is that we don't have a very good marriage & fight a lot, like the way the video begins with Kelly & her husband. My 2nd husband suffers a very subtle, but very REAL mental disorder. So, as it has been previously been observed that she is 'stuck' in her situation, I too feel stuck in my situation.
anonymous Jun 13th, 6:51am report
This is not really about the video. My parents seperated when i was 7.It was horrible. they been seperated for 5 years. and i have a half brother and sister, their dad left them for 10 years without telling them. when my sister found out she cryed every night. i did the same. when my parents seperated it happened right in front of me and my mom said 'thats it we are through' and then my dad left.now im 12 and it still torchers me today. my only wish is for my family together and my mom says that it will never happen but i nevered stopped beliving. now today my dad dont even play with me or my baby brother he is 3. the only ones who play with him is my step-brother and my self.
i think this video is about when kelly was little and her self held he hand and brought her to the kitchen and all that. showed he what was happening. and her mom shut the door on her and started crying.
anonymous Mar 16th, 2013 3:07pm report
I can totally relate to this song. My parents got divorced when I was in 2nd grade and my brother was in pre k. I feel like every child after the divorce has a piece pulled out of their heart. Often they loose a lot o confidence because they don't have stability. Hence the lyric my heart can't possibly break when it wasn't even whole to start with. These kids often take heart breaks even harder because it's making the whole in their heart even larger. Post if you agree with this or feel strongly about it it's something many feel.
anonymous Jun 15th, 2012 6:17am report
After watching the video, this became clear. It's very simple after seeing the video.
In the video, Kelly and her husband are fighting. He is about to throw a picture frame when time stops, and she has time to rethink. She goes to her mirror and see's herself as a child. Her child self shows her the horrible memories as a child that her parents left with her. Her parents got divorced, leaving a permanent effect on Kelly. Now, after looking back at this, Kelly takes the picture frame and puts it back and makes up with her husband. Why? Because of her parents. She's afraid she is going to ruin her child's life if she gets a divorce. She is afraid to get a divorce or start a fight. That's why it shows the child come out of her room and see what's going on.
If you look at the lyrics, you'll see that this helps what I'm explaining.
"I will not make the same mistake that you did" - meaning that she will not get a divorce and let her child go through misery.
She says, "I'm forced to fake a smile, a laugh, every day of my life, my heart can't possible break if it wasn't even whole to start with"
This means that she has to fake loving her husband and make sure nothing goes wrong just for her child. She's in the footsteps of her parents when they were going through hard times, but Kelly knows how much it will hurt the child's life. When it says her heart can't break, she means that there was no true love to begin with, but she can't go back now that she has a child.
"I watched you die
I heard you cry every night in your sleep
I was so young
You should have known better than to lean on me
You never thought of anyone else
You just saw your pain"
Kelly is talking about how her parents were selfish during their divorce, leaving Kelly scarred.
"And now I cry in the middle of the night
For the same damn thing"
Kelly is in the same situation and she is trying to cope with it but she knows divorce is not an option since she can't make the same mistake her parents made.
That's all. Hope I explained it well.
anonymous Mar 3rd, 2012 3:33pm report
I believe the song is about what kelly clarkson went thru as in a divorce and feeling alone depressed and betrayed but its more than that this song really spoke to my heart because when i first heard it it was when my parents of a 20 year marriage got divorce and i was getting bullyed and my father abused me and i have been trying to kill myself and i almost did one time but when i heard the song i went back to when i had th big house everything i wanted a beautyiful life but inside it my parents fought everyday argueing it just broke my heart and i have been bullyed and betrayed and abused since i was 5 i just been thru so much but now i have a boyfriend how its hard to trust because of everything i been thru and i lost my house my long hair my family even my God i am a christian too but when i heard it i cried my heart out and i am only 14 years old and i am going thru this but now i am getting better and i feel alittle better and my boyfriend understands if kelly didnt make this song i would be lost ....
anonymous Jan 31st, 2012 1:12pm report
I really think I understand this. Basically, she starts to fight with her husband in the beginning, and then when he's about to ruin their relationship, she freezes time in a flashback to her child memories, and she goes to look that when her mom divorced her father and he left, he died, and her mom was miserable and her life was ruined. Then she decided to go back and not make the same stupid mistake and ruin her child's life and save their relationship by putting the picture back and hug him at the end. She's in a stuck situation.
anonymous Jan 9th, 2012 1:53pm report
I think it's,like everybody has said, Kelly's parents went and got divorced, and now she's afraid of being in a relationship and trusting people because she doesn't want to be hurt and go through what her parents did...like she says "I learned to Play on the safe side so I don't get hurt" I believe she is referencing back to her parents divorce and I believe she doesn't want to be hurt like her family was...but anyways everybody has their own interpretations so it might mean something different for you.
anonymous Sep 23rd, 2011 9:28pm report
I believe is it about a bad relationship, and he raped her so she will never be the same, and he hurt her as well..... "because of you i am afriad"
Like the video she does with Reba and they are indead singing about a bad relationship, i think she is pashly telling herself she wont fall back into that, and some of it is just helping her cope with it
anonymous Aug 29th, 2011 8:10am report
when i hear this song i think of a person dying. in my own life my first husband commited suicide and left me behind with 3 children. each time i hear it, i think of him, and how i play it on the safe side now. i do see how it could be about divorce, but to me this is what i think of when i hear it.
anonymous Jul 18th, 2011 7:09am report
This is John Rise & i am newbie to this amazing forum. I bring about this forum quite fascinating and more helpful thatswhy i am very much excited to couple here. I confidence all friends are plagiarize me on this cruise and i desire appreciate to staying here.
Thanks a lot
anonymous Jul 16th, 2011 7:14pm report
This is Martin Bayless & i am newbie to this astounding forum. I start this forum profoundly fascinating and more reassuring thatswhy i am very much uneasy to enlist in here. I want all friends are plagiarize me on this cruise and i desire enjoy to staying here.
Thanks a end
anonymous Jun 18th, 2011 6:22am report
The songs about the pain she felt after her father left her and her mother after their divorce. It's about how her mother was selfish and only cared about her own pain and not about her daughters. When she says, "I watched you die. I heard you cry every night in your sleep. I was so young you should have known better than to lean on me. You never thought of anyone else you just saw your pain," this obviously refers to how selfish her mother was. The chorus of the song is definitely a reference to her father. It explains that when he left she had problems trusting people and feeling safe.
anonymous Jun 6th, 2011 6:36pm report
Her dad moving out on her and her mom after they got divorced when Kelly was 6. It's a true story. About her dad, not her husband.
anonymous Mar 5th, 2011 3:27pm report
I think it is about having an abusive husband
But it could also be about her parents divorce
anonymous Nov 1st, 2009 11:59am report
This song is sad...i think it talks about her parents divorce. my parents died when I was young and kinda had the same effect on me because my mums friend made them angry at each other so in my view they both died of a broken heart. listening to this song makes me cry bares.
it reminds me of why I used to keep myself closed up and didn't make many friends. and like kelly I learned the hard way because when all this happened the people who were close to me were very comforting and even now when I tell people what happened they show me sympathy and although I hate it I'm glad because they remind me to not close myself up.
any way this song is about the burdens she faced and how she was able to see everything going on, every child can always notice when there is a problem and this song points it out and shows the parents self intrest when all this goes down.
now basically she is afraid because she doesn't want to have a broken heart and is afraid to think or love someone because she fears she will be hurt like that.
all her words in this song show a metaphoric view. I watched you die talks about when they got divorced and that her parents were upset about it and the soul which is figured as lifes essence died or was broken in two; from the theory of soul mates which is that God made two different people who once together would be complete and so it talks about breaking up.
now she is crying for the same reason could be that she herself experienced the same problems or was to afraid to take the risk. I feel the same way as kelly and relate to this song so much. There are so many risks that are worth taking and life is not complete without them but saying that I am a hypocrite although it is my view because I never risk my heart because it can never get broken and instead I simply say its ok. The only time I came close was the one day when I listened to this song.it made me think but then I chickened last moment. but still this song can provide inspiration to people to take the risks because there are some things that are worth it whether it is for relationships with family or friends or boyfriends or girlfriends. It teaches not to fake anything and be honest... I think finally listening to this song again has taught me to take risks and if I ever gain the courage to be honest in relationship matters then I would happily say its because of this song...
thank you kelly clarkson <3
anonymous Oct 14th, 2009 10:44pm report
This song is one of my favorites becUse it relates to my life and almost mirrors it. My parents Are divorced too and it's my dad that makes me afraid of anything I say. The verse " because of you I am afraid" is what I feel when my dad doesn't do what he says. I'm aFraid he is going to hurt my heart again. Also the verse " I will not mAke the same mistakes thAt you did" means a lot because I will never try to hurt someones feelings by not showing up for a special event of mine or excluding me because I'm not his favorite child. Mostly the parents in this song are being selfish and not thinking about whAt we kids are feeling deepndown.
this song doesnt jst need to be about divorced families. my brother was going thro a drug addiction and it had a strong impact on my family. i listened to this song and it made me think about how i dont want to make the same mistakes as him and that he put a lot of the stress on me. i was afraid of a lot of stuff and played on the safe side just like the song said.
songinterpreter95 May 9th, 2009 5:17pm report
I know that because of you is a song about her parents, but I see it as her being really scared to do anything that she wants to do. She wants to do all of these things, but her fear of everything is holding her back constantly. She also sees that fear whenever she wants to get close to something, but she fears that it is going to go away soon.
More Kelly Clarkson song meanings »
Submit Your Interpretation
Related Blog Posts
|Story of My Life||anonymous|
|Little White Lies||anonymous|
|One More Night||anonymous|
|Hold On, We're Going Home||anonymous|
|Love Will Tear Us Apart||anonymous|
|Girl On Fire||anonymous|
|Paint You Wings||anonymous|