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Fergie: Big Girls Don't Cry Meaning

Song Released: 2007

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Big Girls Don't Cry Lyrics

Da Da Da Da
The smell of your skin lingers on me now
You're probably on your flight back to your home town
I need some shelter of my own protection baby
To be with myself and center, clarity
Peace, Serenity

I hope you know, I...


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    Dec 27th, 2007 12:23am report

    The first time I heard this song, I had just broken up with my boyfriend of two years because he moved away. It was a very traumatic time for me, and so my friend played it for me in attempt to make me feel a little better. As I listened to the lyrics, I began to realize that the burning hole I felt inside me was a feeling shared by others—that I wasn't alone.

    I believe that the music video has some pertinence, even if it does not go exactly with the lyrics. I feel this way because Fergie realizes that for her own good, she must get out of this relationship. As it was with me; though I was so sad to see him go, I realized that it was probably a good thing because our relationship was not meant to be. I think Fergie was simply being wise and ending something before it was too late. I know that my relationship would probably have gone bad if my boyfriend had not moved away, but may not have necessarily ended because we were in love and it was painful to break away. I give Fergie (or the character in the song) lots of credit for having such guts to do something so difficult!

    What I have found to be true is that something bittersweet about a bad relationship is the good memories. I say this because it makes you think one thing in your heart when your head is telling you another. Often, we do not want to go with what our head is saying but it is almost as frequently the better choice. I hate to sound so cynical, because I am a girl and I'm supposed to believe in romance, but love is really something else. Sure, romance is involved, but there comes a point where two people have to work out together if they want to carry on, and Fergie could see that they did not work out.

    In the music video, they seem to be very happy in most of the clips. I think this goes back to what I was saying about the happy memories. I think she shows these clips to help portray to the viewer the inner battle Fergie is experiencing. Should she cling onto something that used to be, or purge it from her future and try to move on? I think the clips are memories that she has and is trying to imagine are the present truth, but she realizes she can no longer do this when she sees what occurs with her boyfriend and his buddies outside the house.

    As for her saying it's personal, heck yes it's personal. I would not want to be with someone who deals drugs! She doesn't have to tell him that, all she has to tell him is that she is done, and that should suffice, seeings as he definitely saw her standing there at the door. I think most men would know at that point that they were in trouble.

    As much as she hates to see him go, she still loves him very much and that is why she is so hurt. She recounts their relationship and compares it to several more innocent images probably because it helps her heal. Childhood is a much simpler and innocent time, and I believe that she is trying to place her mind back into childhood, when relationships were merely crushes and playdates, but nothing more.

    We all know that love is not simple and that is the very irony of the song. I think the contrast provided between what is actually going on and what Fergie provides the listener with is what gives the song its uniqueness. The fact that it struck so close to home is what provided me with comfort, so thank you, Fergie. It is painful to let go, but in some situations more painful to hold on. If you can block some things out, at least for a little while, you can come closer to acceptance. And like she says, get a move on with your life.


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    Aug 28th, 2007 8:31am report

    This song is about her boyfriend being an ice dealer and her knowing that she has to leave.

    That is what is getting passed between the hands of him and his mates in the film clip.


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    Aug 24th, 2007 8:08pm report

    She's in love with someone but know that she has to get over them because she'll never be with them again. She knows its going to be tough but feels that it needs to be done because she realizes she needs to grow up and move on with her life since he has. She doesn't want to cry over him anymore hence "Big Girls Don't Cry".

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