Paula Cole - Where Have all the Cowboys Gone? Meaning

Song Released: 1997

Where Have all the Cowboys Gone? Lyrics

Oh you get me ready in your 56 chevy
Why don't we go sit down in the shade
Take shelter on my front porch
The dandy lion sun scorching,
Like a glass of cold lemonade
I will do the laundry if you pay all the bills

CHORUS:

Where is my John...

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   #1 top rated interpretation:
   astorian

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   Apr 6th 2012 !⃝

   Hollywood has always glamorized cowboys. The strong, silent, rugged macho man in a Stetson hat has always been a powerful image. Women wanted to marry a John Wayne or Gary Cooper, while men wanted to BE John Wayne or Gary Cooper.
   
   Paula Cole is singing about the reality behind that image. The narrator of that song fell in love with a rugged, macho rural male and lost her virginity to him in the back of his car. She fell in love with him and married him... and only then learned that life with a REAL cowboys isn't so glamorous after all.
   
   The "cowboy" she married doesn't have any tender feelings and doesn't think much about her needs. He works hard all day, then spends his nights either drinking or watching TV. She attends to all his wants, but he doesn't even notice that she HAS any wants of her own.
   
   Cowboys, ranchers and farm workers in rural America don't make much money, so she and her husband are barely scraping by, financially. They had to sell their car, and he took a job at a farm far away.
   
   So, she's left raising children by herself, working her fingers to the bone, while her husband drinks away the little money he earns.
   
   She's left wondering... what happened to the man I idealized? I THOUGHT he was going to be the kind of romantic cowboy I saw in movies. But there's nothing romantic or glamorous about this life at all.

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   anonymous

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   Nov 17th 2013 !⃝

   I think this song is about longing for the hero. Her relationship with her husband is
   unhappy, abusive and does not fill her needs or desires. He has changed a lot since getting married and having children. He doesn't notice her anymore. She is wishing for someone to save her, someone like the good guys in the Old West.
3. anonymous

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   Jun 10th 2023 !⃝

   It's her idea of what a cowboy is and then it's nothing like she thought it would be, this is haunting because Hollywood glamorized the cowboy as a knight in shining armor and always respectful and kind. It's a haunting song either way no matter what Paula was trying to convey to her audience.
4. anonymous

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   Jan 15th 2023 !⃝

   At first I did think she wanted a typical marriage where husband works while mom stays home and takes care of house. But after reading that she's apparently being sarcastic about the whole thing, basically she's like, I can do everything without a man and I'm not waiting for a man to come save me. I got this, with or without you. Men are douchebags anyway, only caring about pu$$y so I don't need you. I'll do the dishes and then I'll I have a beer, I don't need you to come walk all over me just because you pay a couple bills like youre a super hero just because you have a job. I can work too and probably make more money than you anyway!! Lol AND RAISE THE KIDS!
5. anonymous

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   May 13th 2022 !⃝

   Paula Cole is a feminist, who made this song as a sarcastic commentary about women who want traditional marriage with a traditional man. Cole flipped bird onstage at Grammys while singing this song, frustrated that people weren't picking up on how clever she was and were instead enjoying the song at face value. Since most people don't understand feminism sarcasm cloaked in a normal desire to find a spouse and have children.
6. anonymous

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   Oct 14th 2021 !⃝

   Paula finally explains how her song was misunderstood and even used by Rush Limbaugh who thought it was about a woman longing for a real macho.
   
   https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/paula-cole-
   recalls-how-her-biggest-90-s-hit-was-misunderstood-it-was-horrific-184814249.html
7. anonymous

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   Mar 8th 2021 !⃝

   I think it is about how John Wayne loved to do cowboy stuff like wash dishes and help around the house
8. anonymous

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   Jun 29th 2018 !⃝

   i think she's striking out at feminists.
   she says quite happily she'll do all the housework if he pays all the bills - its a fair deal.
   cowboys were tough men, with pretty conservative views - he works, she stays at home. sounds to me she's longing for those days again when gender roles were clearly defined.
   that doesn't mean one partner has to stay at home whilst the other is breadwinner but she is proposing that as a solution she is happy with.

   This interpretation has been marked as poor. view anyway
9. anonymous

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   Dec 14th 2016 !⃝

   I think it's a song with a strong feminist vibe. She's being sarcastic in her tone especially when she say's "I will wash the dishes, while you go have a beer" Then it kind of gets a little sad because she seems frustrated or confused, maybe she wants a cowboy but one who treats her right. It really expresses the frustration between the sexes after the feminist movement.
10. anonymous

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    Nov 14th 2013 !⃝

    I think this is about marriage in general. It's fun and romantic when you are just dating and being boyfriend and girlfriend, but when you get married, and especially when you have kids, you have responsibilities which put a damper on romance. It doesn't like the husband is a bad guy. He just sounds tired after work, and wants to unwind. The wife is a little more interested in romance by trying on a new dress, but still it's not the fun it used to be. I think "cowboy" is symbolic of a romantic figure in general, and selling the truck shows them giving up what gave them fun and freedom so that they can make ends meet, take care of business. I think this song can be about most marriages, especially when you have kids.