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I'm not in love, so don't forget it.
It's just a silly phase I'm going through.
And just because I call you up,
Don't get me wrong, don't think you've got it made.
I'm not in love, no no, it's because...
I like to see you, but then...


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    Nov 26th, 2006 11:21pm report

    I think the song is just about being in love with someone but not wanting to admit it to them or to yourself, or trying to convince yourself that you don't love them because the other person might make too big a deal out of it, and you're trying to convince yourself that it's less of a big deal than it really is. For example, I think the boy in the song wants to keep her picture so he can look at it all the time, but he uses the excuse that he's just using it to hide "a nasty stain". Everything he's telling his girl makes me think he really is in love with her, but doesn't want her to know so he's covering up everything with excuses.


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    Dec 7th, 12:48am report

    Not one time in the song did they use the words she or her. You are assuming it's about a woman. Think about this while you listen to it... A man has a homosexual affair and doesn't want to be found out. Look at the origin of the bands name.


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    Nov 26th, 11:00pm report

    He is so so much in love with her that it hurts him inside. He knows she loves him too but maybe not on same level. It's so much a song of denial. He wants to love her so much but is afraid to scare her away.
    Awesome song.!!!


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    Nov 9th, 11:27am report

    Stewart came up with the idea for the song after his wife, to whom he had been married for eight years at that point, asked him why he didn't say "I love you" more often to her. Stewart said, "I had this crazy idea in my mind that repeating those words would somehow degrade the meaning, so I told her, 'Well, if I say every day "I love you, darling, I love you, blah, blah, blah", it's not gonna mean anything eventually'. That statement led me to try to figure out another way of saying it, and the result was that I chose to say 'I'm not in love with you', while subtly giving all the reasons throughout the song why I could never let go of this relationship." - from wikipedia website
    - Sleepy Interpreter


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    Nov 9th, 11:18am report

    The tone of his voice is of him sulking and being love sick from this love-he has lost her and he can't admit how much because she has already gone. But he keeps her picture on the wall...


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    Apr 25th, 2017 4:07pm report

    He loves her so very much but he knows she is going to hurt him so badly she is the love of his life and always will be.


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    Apr 22nd, 2015 4:24pm report

    Here’s my take I think the boy is probably has a ‘mummy’s boy complex’ he is emotionally underdeveloped -he’s fallen for this girl at school, and is a little bit platonic with her, but doesn’t want to take things any further – the “big boys don’t cry” chorus is reflective of his mum comforting him, because he’s leaked things out to his mum, and he can’t let the girl know he’s terribly shy.


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    Aug 5th, 2014 8:51pm report

    It clearly obvious that he is in love. The main two give away was the big boys don't cry verse and the verses about him keeping her picture but giving a silly excuse that he is hiding a a nasty stain on the wall.
    Listening to the song for a second time then it all comes together that he is in love but he is in denial. The reason of the denial is unclear but, he put on this defense saying he is not in love and that she will wait a long time for him, while at the same time he is saying I'd like to see you, if I call you don't make a fuss and don't think that you got it made, and dont ask for your picture back, Lol. This song pure genius. A paradoxical masterpiece.


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    Mar 21st, 2013 3:09pm report

    I feel it's a denial of his love. Hurt feelings can cause fear. He's in love, but fears what could happen, so he states, "I'm not in LOVE". He is in LOVE!!!!!!
    A very beautiful emotional song with so much pain.
    I've experienced so much pain from my first love, many decades ago, and caused lack of trust and fear to be in love !!!!! I've tasted the emotion so very much !!!!!
    Love is so beautiful. Why do some people hurt the ones they love ??????


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    May 3rd, 2012 5:25am report

    I think that he are she had a long reationship or were married and both were in love
    with each other. Anyway it seems to me that
    she did something that caused him a lot of
    emotional pain. Maybe she cheated or somehow
    hurt his feelings, or maybe he is a jealous
    guy. He still loves her very much, but he
    knows that he will get burned again if they
    kiss and make-up and resume their relationship, so he repeats to himself or
    to her that's he's not in love (denial),it's
    just a silly phase he's going through
    He is heartbroken but cannot forgive her. He
    Puts-on this tough, brave front and say's to
    her "You'll wait a long time for me". He
    believes she wants him back, but he wants to
    but cannot accept her or trust her.
    This song is a musical masterpiece.

    Martin {flyer}


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    Nov 22nd, 2011 11:30pm report

    He loves her so much


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    Apr 22nd, 2011 4:01pm report

    I think this guy is in LOVE, but he's fighting with himself to admit that.
    As simple as that.
    ...big boys don't cry (a macho cries inside)


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    Oct 11th, 2010 10:04pm report

    I think that the singer of this song is in fact not in love. I believe that he feels this girl in his life is the closest thing he has got to a girlfriend but he does not feel that connection and is afraid to leave her or pursue a more meaningful relationship.


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    Nov 9th, 2009 11:49am report

    The guy IS in love with her, doesn't think she loves him as much and feels vulnerable to perhaps being dumped. All the signs - phone calls he makes,having her picture 'on the wall' - clearly identifies he is smitten. He tries to lessen his vulnerability by saying she shouldn't tell her friends about them.....but I'm sure he would be chuffed to bits if he heard that she had (it would suggest she did love him back, love him as much as he does her, thought there was a future between them).

    Hey, doesn't one in a couple always love the other more in the begining of a relationship and worry that the other doesn't think as much? Yeah, of course they do!

    It's a fab, well crafted love song.

    PJ luuvs SD


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    Dec 15th, 2008 12:42pm report

    The guy is repeating what she said to him. That's why she says "big boys don't cry" Peter Eliot


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    Feb 6th, 2006 2:10pm report

    At the beginning I thought he still cares about her and still loves her in someway but not enough to be in love, because he cried in the song. The other meaning I got is that deep down he's still in love with her but can't admit it for macho reasons. He keeps saying in the song "it's because, it's because," but doesn't explain. What's your take on the song? I'd love to know.

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