Band of Horses: Funeral Meaning
I'm coming up only to show you wrong
And to know you is hard and we wonder
To know you all wrong, we were
Really too late to call, so we wait for
Morning to wake you; it's all we got
To know me as...
anonymous Aug 30th, 2013 8:03am report
When listening to this song I actually didn't get the same interpretation as everyone else. They all say it's about an addiction. In my opinion I think the song is referring to 2 people who are in a relationship and it is a destructive relationship. When he says "I'm coming up only to hold you under" and the other verses like that, it's like he's saying I'm destroying you. We are no good for each other but for some reason we still hold on to this relationship. It's like those relationships where you can tell they are emotionally hurting each other but at the same time they refuse to leave each other. At the part where he says he is ready for the funeral, I refer to that as the day they finally split up for good. His lyrics about the billion day funeral is referring to when they've broken up so many times but always get back together. Like they've been through this same scenario a "billion" times before so he expects it. but he is waiting for that final funeral, the final break up where they never get back together. they are just going to try to get through the night and pretend to sleep even though the inevitable break up is coming soon. They are going to wait for the break up in the morning "the morning call" but for now they just stay together another night. I don't know, I could be completely wrong but i really didn't get the addiction interpretation until I started reading everyone else's thoughts. I always thought it was about a destructive relationship that's about to end.
anonymous Sep 13th, 2013 9:04pm report
The Funeral’ was the main single from Band of Horses' first album, Everything All the Time, released back in 2006.
Lead singer Ben Bridwell says he didn’t intend the song to be deep, and wrote about how birthdays and family occasions felt like funerals to him, but fans have found plenty of meaning in the word play. Whatever the story, it evokes a sad and reflective mood as the singer visits someone and contemplates if they will be alive when he gets there.
Kid Cudi sampled the song in 2008 for ‘The Prayer’ and it has appeared in a long list of TV shows and films.
anonymous Nov 17th, 2018 11:00pm report
This is about someone who is told by his best fiend that he is about to commit suicide.
"I'm coming up only to hold you under" means his friend is rushing to the scene to to stop him from killing him self... to hold him under not to go over the top.
"I'm coming up only to show you wrong" means he is going to persuade him that what he is about to do is wrong.
"And to know you is hard and we wonder
To know you all wrong, we were" means his friend is thinking that it doesn't matter how well he knew his friend it is always hard to really know someone and how wrong they were about their friend.
"Really too late to call, so we wait for
Morning to wake you; it's all we got" means that his friend got there too late and he had already killed him self. So it's too late to call and all they got now is to wake him (as in bury) in the morning.
"To know me as hardly golden
Is to know me all wrong, they were" Here his friend is thinking what his dead friend must have been thinking before killing himself, that although everybody thought that he was golden ie a good person, he hardly was and that they were all wrong about him.
If anyone is interested i will explain the rest......
Perspective May 4th, 5:33am report
To me, it’s about loving someone you’re constantly worried about. Proving to them that yes, life is hard, life beats you down, that everything is hurtful and feels impossible sometimes, but they’re never alone. “I’m coming up only to prove you wrong.” We’ve both been through the hell of the storm, we’re both a little bit traumatized by it, and we’re left with the scars to prove it, one of them being this undying pessimism about all the good things left in life. Nobody really sees mine, because I’m good at burying it, I hide it so others don’t worry for me. “ we wait for
Morning to wake you is all we got
And to know me as hardly golden
Is to know me all wrong“ You think I have my life completely together? When are you going to wake up and realize that we all struggle. I’m nowhere near perfect either, I’m struggling right beside you. People say all these good things about me, but I’m not what people think of me. I’m always waiting for the good things to end. I’ve been preparing for every single possibility of how good things end, and I’m ready for it, I won’t be surprised when it all happens. The dead leaves part is saying like, “Hey, I know that we all kind of fear our mortality, but we fear life too, and the leaves always die anyways, but some leaves die on the tree and don’t die alone. They still have something to hold onto”. It almost prioritizes not dying alone.
SpeakB4iThink Dec 5th, 2019 12:43am report
I feel like this song is about a toxic person who tried to convince someone that likes them that it wasn't going to work. The 1st 2 lines letting that person know that they will only be destroyed. Suggests that the toxic person is perceived as something greater than the truth and will unfortunately prove it. Always waiting for that person to recognize the destructive relationship they were warned about and becomes dead to them. Waiting for the inevitable funeral they've created for themselves at at the expense of trying to protect someone else's feelings.
anonymous Nov 2nd, 2019 11:13pm report
Everything in life has a beginning and an end and everything in between is our interpretation as individuals. Done
anonymous Feb 13th, 2019 2:13pm report
I think this song is about loving someone that is anti-social and an introvert. This person puts a wall up to prevent anyone from hurting them because at some point in their life someone hurt them so bad that they never recovered from. Then one day they meet someone and deep down they know that this is their soul mate but instead of embracing them, they destroy them. They hurt them instead as if to see how much they can take before they give up on them, but instead the love of their life continues to accept them and support them even when they are wrong. One day their soul mate finally leaves. Gives up on them as they see that they can’t change them or get them to ever open up despite years of loyalty to them. “ I am coming up to show you wrong”.
anonymous Nov 21st, 2018 11:34pm report
Again relationship or drugs
Anything and everything can become an addiction ....
So for me it’s about addiction but being addicted to a relationship that is destructive and poisons the mind heart and soul
anonymous Dec 19th, 2017 12:59pm report
Well, as I see this song, it´s like, mmm let´s say I don´t have a very good relationship with my mother, so when I lisen to this song, it's like, fuck it, fuck you, I mean, everybody says stuff like ''Oh, you have to stay with your people, your family, they ain´t forever, you know?' And it´s like, ok, fine, but man, you don´t know anything, family it´s not somenthing you choose, you could be born with a family that doesn´t give a shit on you. So, I think my interpretation it´s that, I don´t care bout´you, I don´t give a shit, you can die, I won´t care. I won´t regret, you hurt me so much, and ''coming up only to show you´re wrong'' cuz' I won´t cry for you.
anonymous Aug 15th, 2016 8:57pm report
This guy is a WWll veteran. A pilot, maybe flew a Lancaster Bomber. He's in his 50's..his life peaked in his youth and he drinks to both remember and forget. He drinks as he sees how it all turned out...all the sacrifices, the heroics of his friends, that it is all forgotten....
anonymous Jun 4th, 2014 6:07pm report
I thought maybe, it was a friend speaking to the man in the music video after the crash. The man was incredibly depressed and drank all the time. the crash either almost killed him or killed him. when the first paragraph "I'm coming up only to hold you under And coming up only to show you're wrong" meant to me that he was coming to tell him that he was wrong about life and he doesn't need to drink to deal with his issues. "And to know you is hard; we wonder..." meant that he and everyone dont fully understand him. "To know you all wrong; we warn."they were afraid to call because they didnt want to be wrong and make things worse. "Really too late to call,So we wait for morning To wake you is all we got" its too late to call and try and help, so now they just wait for the morning he wakes up from his coma or whatever is wrong. If he is dead then the singer is constantly waiting for a day that will never come. "To know me as hardly golden Is to know me all wrong, they warn." this to me is the singer telling him that to think of him as someone who doesn't care "hardly golden" is to be wrong about him because he does. then the chorus tells that he is ready for him to die at any moment by waiting for the funeral.
"To the outside, the dead leaves lay on the lawn/For they don't have trees to hang upon." is him finally telling the his friend that he has a reason to hold on. that he is the tree that he can hang upon. thus giving the man something to live for. in the case that he is dead however its telling his dead friend that he had reasons to live and be happy, but the singer is having trouble accepting his death. Both of these situations make sense to me. the are broad because the song is broad. but it truly is an amazing piece of art.
anonymous Mar 8th, 2013 3:16pm report
People...copying the wikipedia info about this song isn't an interpretation..Seriously,,if I'm in here looking for the meaning of this song I've checked wikipedia...me and everyone else.......
anonymous Dec 28th, 2012 12:46pm report
My interpretation is the continual feeling of unease at having someone you love involved in addictive and/or destructive behavior. You live your life in a constant state of nervousness -- waiting for that call informing you that your loved one has died. You almost begin to expect the call, and a feeling of panic comes over you with each ring of the phone. Their choices are so destructive that you feel a sense that death is eminent at some point. As a result, you prepare yourself during the moments of your life for a funeral -- at every occasion in your life, you are mentally preparing for a funeral. Just my .02.
anonymous Dec 4th, 2012 12:36pm report
This song has many ways that it can be interpreted. Keeping the lyrics cryptic was the intent when singer, Ben Bidwell wrote "The Funeral", due to the delicate nature of the song's meaning.
When Bridwell moved to Seattle he fell victim to the mystique of the music scene and all of its offerings. Seattle, known for being the genesis of up and coming music, gloomy weather, and heroin had claimed another addict.
This song was written as a third person narrative from the drug's devicive perspective. Bridwell, knowing that each occasion of increased usage would eventually result in his demise.
Although many claims have been made to alternative meanings, this remains to this day, the initial inspiration to the lyrics.
anonymous Nov 28th, 2012 11:55am report
i think its a guy who is drowning himself in alcohol and cant find a way to the surface. but he hides it from everyone because something inside him is eating away at him and he knows it will cause his death someday. and he has accepted that idea in his mind. and yet he still keeps drinking and he drinks until the bar closes a he is at home waiting for it to open the next day to drink away the pain again and become closer to death. pretty simple and if anyone wants to discuss this look me up on facebook Anthony Wine,
anonymous Nov 26th, 2012 11:26am report
This song is actually pretty straight-forward and has been talked about several times by various members of the band for their take on it.
It is a letter or reference to the multiple abortions that the singer of the band, Brad's, girlfriends had received during his time living in Seattle.
article there about it
anonymous Apr 28th, 2012 4:54pm report
To the outside, the dead leaves, they all blow (alive is very poetic)
For'e (before) they died had trees to hang their hope
The above two lines are extremely cryptic in nature, but make a lot of sense when you break them down. I see this as a reflection on internal versus external vision. The duality is continued as a dichotomy between life and afterlife, happiness and unhappiness and reality versus perception. "To the outside" is a reference to the subjects internal versus external self he/she maintains an image for those around him/her that is not real on the inside. BoH paints a picture of dead leaves flowing freely in the wind but "For'[even] before they died had trees to hang their hope". This last phrase provides a juxtaposition and poetic irony to the idea that one can be more free in death than one who's living and figuratively handing themselves every day in realization that their hopes and dreams that will never come fruition (forgive the pun).
anonymous Apr 16th, 2012 4:43pm report
i think this song is based on a suicide, its a friend that loves another friend and thought that he new him perfectly well, but one day he took his own life, "im coming up only to hold you under " is when he speaks at the guys funeral about who he was and how he REALLY WAS i comming up to show you wrong" tosay to the people and to you (his dead friend) that he was a beautiful person that cant have his name soiled by suicide.
then the second paragraph is his dead friend talking the one who took his own life. he died so its to late to tell his friend, so he waits for mourning to come and for his friend to hear the news "to know me as hardly golden... to me means that he is made of pure gold of pure good... but to think of him as such a perfect being like his friend speaks of in his funeral is too know him all wrong because he isnt like that he isnt all good. and then he proceeds to say that when he died in any type of way he is ready for his funeral for death.
then again his friend talks and repeats his words
and then the dead friend says "to the outside the dead leaves their on the lawn for the dont have trees to hang there hopes. (here he tells us the real reason of why he killed himself. because he was a dead leaf with no more hopes.
anyway that's what i take from it i find this song beautiful and i love reading what others think of it
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