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Ben Folds: You Don't Know Me Meaning

Song Released: 2008

You Don't Know Me Lyrics

I wanna ask you
Do you ever sit and wonder,
It's so strange
That we could be together for
So long, and never know, never care
What goes on in the other one's head?

Things I've felt but I've never said
You said things that I never...

  1. anonymous
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    Apr 4th report

    I think it’s about a toxic or abusive relationship. Not being on the same page or drifting apart. Not really being the right match. “Things I’ve thought but I never said, you said things that I never said(gaslighting). So I’ll say something that I should have said long ago, you don’t know me, you don’t know me at all.” I think it’s him realizing that what he thought the relationship wasn’t actually it, and that he’s ready to stand up and end it.
    “You could have propped me up on the table like mannequin or a cardboard stand up to paint me into how you want me to be seen” you’ve made me into what you wanted me to be and kept trying to force me to be a particular type of person and I am not that person.
    “ find the person that you think I am, clueless chump you seem to think I am, so easily led astray a dog that nescapes and needs a shorter leash why the fuck would you want me back, maybe it’s because you don’t know me at all. So what I’m trying to say is what? I’m trying to tell you is not going to come out how I want to say it bc I know you’ll only change it.” Basically anything he says she flips back on him and interprets it against her or whatever. But yeah I think it’s very much a obviously you don’t know me bc we aren’t getting on so why would you want to continue this abusive relationship when I’m obviously not what you’re looking for

  2. anonymous
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    Dec 29th 2013 report

    The only part that I don't seem to be able to come up with a conclusion for is the line where he uses the word 'existential', which is a phylosophy based on experience. So is he saying that they were damned to realization based on their experience once they saw the "couple in the coma"? I'm unsure

  3. anonymous
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    Jul 19th 2011 report

    i believe it's about being in a relationship
    weather it be with friends,spouse,or parent
    the person your with who you have been with for a long period of time know nothing about you,

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