What does Hate Me mean?

Blue October: Hate Me Meaning

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Hate Me Lyrics

(If you're sleeping are you dreaming
If your dreaming are you dreaming of me?
I can't believe you actually picked me.)

(”Hi Justin, this is your mother, and it's 2:33 on Monday afternoon.
I was just calling to see how you were doing.
You...

  1. anonymous
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    May 16th 2009 !⃝

    Read interviews with Justin Furstenfeld! Here is a direct quote from one with MusicPix - That's actually his real mom in the video!:

    MusicPix: I want to talk about “Hate Me” as an apology and we assume your mother was one of the recipients of that apology. What was it like to have her on the set and included in the video after you purged all of those feelings?

    Justin: It was a great release. My whole life, I’ve always been the guy who writes songs about as bluntly honest as I can. Having my Mom in the video was just so true to the fact. To me as an artist, I couldn’t have had anyone else do it. It was just so brilliant. There were so many issues that I had to go through, like drug addition, that my Mom had to go through with me and all that stuff…there were really some awful times. Awful things that I did to her and in other relationships by simply not caring. It gets to a point where you forget. And finally you come up above water one day and no one is really there anymore…I was 28 years old at the time, and it was time to get my stuff together and start proving myself. In a 12 Step Program, one of the steps is admit, apologize, and confront the people that you hurt. So this was me skipping a bunch of steps and going right to the core because I’d already been through so much hell. That was my main reason for making the video that way. I didn’t want a video that was ‘boy does too many drugs, girl leaves him, end of story. No, I wanted to show that your Mother could die while you’re in an alley and you’d never even know. The director was an amazing man and I was honored to work with a director like that. I didn’t have to say anything, I just sat back and boom… He got the treatment, he got the vision…normally I would be like ‘ddddd…this has to be changed or that has to be changed.’

  2. anonymous
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    May 13th 2009 !⃝

    Oh and he said he won't touch the drugs that he self-destructed himself with.

  3. anonymous
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    May 13th 2009 !⃝

    Okay. This song is definatley about someone who went through a very hard time inside themselves where they were very depressed and the pushed the important people in their lives away when they actually needed them the most and the people who cared tried to reach out so the sad guy made them upset because he was doing it to himself and he just wanted to be left alone, because he felt as if he was being a burden to others...even though he needed the support tht the people were trying to provide.

  4. sarah_95
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    Mar 29th 2009 !⃝

    this song is about a man with many problems but his gf or mother still loves him so much even though he has dissapointed them so many times and he doesn`t want them to love him so much so that he doesn`t have to worry about hurting the ones he loves agin and agin so he says hate me today hate me tomarow he thinks that the only good thing about them loving him is that they saved his life but once agin he let them down so he thinks he should just die.

  5. anonymous
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    Jan 3rd 2009 !⃝

    My first love recently told me that this song reminds him of me. I had seen the video before and thought that it was odd. However, driving home tonight, the song came on. I wept because I finally got what he meant. Like paintings, songs can have entirely different meanings to different people.

    He broke off our engagement years ago, after 5 very intimate years. I was so heartbroken for so long, but I moved away and never spoke to him again until recently when he contacted me to tell me that he was so very sorry for hurting me and the abrupt way that it ended. He wanted me to know that he never stopped loving me, but it had to end-- I had given up everything for him.

    BTW, the "one thing" that tore us apart was not drugs-- it was infidelity...

  6. standtall
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    Dec 19th 2008 !⃝

    My take is that he wants every one to hate him. Not so he can leave but so he can commit suicide. If everyone hates him or forgets him it makes it a lot easier for him to do it. Just my take on it and probably a bit extreme.

  7. Krevann
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    Dec 10th 2008 !⃝

    This song for me, is about a guy who has so much baggage in his life that he is causing nothing but pain to himself and those around him. Pain that comes from selfishness or insecurity perhaps. And he speaks about never being man enough to deal with it, and letting it get the best of him so he leaves. And as he leaves he promises to do his best by those he cares about by making himself impossible to contact or impossible to miss.... hence the lyric hate me. The whole idea is, "yes I hurt you and I was awful to you. So hate me today, and I will do my part and help you to hate me and I will not let myself be in a position to have you pitty or miss me."

  8. emo_scremo94
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    Dec 6th 2008 !⃝

    Well I don't really know because I'm not the band I honestly think it's about his mom " how could you do this to me ? " "hate me today hate me tomarrow " he might have done something to his mom mentally or physically .......

  9. anonymous
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    Oct 22nd 2008 !⃝

    The video has a different interpretation. The actual song is talking about trying to get away from all his troubles and problems he has had with his mom and girl friend, and in the end he commits suicide... my son's dead...

  10. anonymous
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    Sep 4th 2008 !⃝

    I interpret this song as a recovering addict remembering an account of when he almost O.D.'d, and his mom was there when it happened. Also remembering everything she did for him when was was a user, and that he wants all those bad memories to go away. The only thing I find awkward about it being his mom is when he brings up the pornos feeling like home...not sure how to interpret that one. Nevertheless, I do feel like this is a son talking to his mother, and she is in some sort of depressive state caused by his actions.

  11. SupaHAnonymouS
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    Jul 20th 2008 !⃝

    Ok Lots Of People Think It Is About his Mom Dieing or a depression of his mother but it goes much deeper. 1st off it isn't about his mom dying so there you have it. It is about him being suicidal. And how his mother help him get through it. So where is the proof well through out the whole song it really says for it self that his is going through a troubled phase/time. The Only 2 times it really sticks out on suicide is,1,"You Never doubted My Warped on things like SUICIDAL hate." That line kinda speaks for it self and the second line, "While I was waging wars on myself you were trying to stop the fight." and that means he(the singer) was trying to commit suicide and his mom helped him stop. So no it isn't a deep depression or death it is SUICIDE!!! :D. Thanks and that's my interpretation!

  12. anonymous
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    Jul 14th 2008 !⃝

    I believe this song is about a son with either mental or drug problems. He wants to put his mother out of worry so he's telling her to hate him. At the end of the song, so me it sounds like someone is screaming "He just died! He just died!" So I think it ends in suicide

  13. anonymous
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    Jun 15th 2008 !⃝

    He wants to kill himself but the only thing holding him back is the love of his mother... If she hated him he would have nothing left and would be able to do it.

  14. ilovepaparoach
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    May 7th 2008 !⃝

    Hmmmm...i think this song is about 2 people that just broke up and he wants the girl to be aboe to move on. He doesn't want her to grieve that he's gone. He wants her to be happy.

  15. pj23
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    May 7th 2008 !⃝

    I think, He is going back over things through out the song. His life growing up and at the part where the mom takes the picture you see how much she loved him and was proud of him. Now ,he can see it because he isn't on drugs anymore. SO he sees things though different eyes. Then he goes to the cemetery leaves the answering machine on his moms grave. When he left the house he looked one more time and the house was empty. I think it was to show his mom has gone. If he passed away why would she move? That doesn't make sense. Anyways, at the end I think it again, shows him life through different eyes. Him and his mom enjoying each others company. SO it shows the life he never got to see. That is what I make out of it. At first when I herd the song I thought it was a relationship between a guy and gal...OH well.




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