What does Hate Me mean?

Blue October: Hate Me Meaning

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Hate Me Lyrics

(If you're sleeping are you dreaming
If your dreaming are you dreaming of me?
I can't believe you actually picked me.)

(”Hi Justin, this is your mother, and it's 2:33 on Monday afternoon.
I was just calling to see how you were doing.
You...

  1. anonymous
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    Feb 23rd 2011 !⃝

    He is bipolar and explains how when he is in a deep depression and feels like everyone hates him and how he pushed his loved ones away and isolated I relate and felt the same way. I am bipolar and have been in and out of institutions my whole life is there any one that hears it that same way if so please let me know

  2. anonymous
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    Jan 26th 2011 !⃝

    After watching the video, I have come to this conclusion. The voice recorder he has represents those that care for him, and the mother mentions he was "really uptight". When he walks through house, he sees scenes of his life, including one with his mother holding him close and shaking him. The narrator is dead, and the character in black with the answering machine is his ghost.

    The song is an apology for all the things he did when he was living, and he's trying to move on and leave his mother behind so she can become happy once more. "Kicking shadows on the street for every mistake I have made" suggests his inability to touch and different things.

    He's also apologizing for leaving his mother like he did. But, overall, he thinks it's better, although he regrets giving her pain and wants her to hate him for it, so he can move on without feeling more guilty for causing her pain.

    The voice recorder represents the people he cares about/those that care for him. The grave he drops it on is his, and he's leaving his people behind to find a better life.

  3. anonymous
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    Jan 7th 2011 !⃝

    To me the meaning of this song (To me) is about struggling with bipolar and manic depression. I myself am bipolar and I struggle, I say things I don't mean, I hurt the people I love the most, and it hurts me more than it hurts them. I get mad and cant control myself and wind up in shit piles past my head, and I struggle with depression. And my mom has helped me and my sibling so much.And I don't know what I would do without her.
    I just went through a hard break up. I still love them, in fact I never loved anyone more (other than family of course) and I messed up bad, and I can't take back anything I said. And all I want for them is to be happy even if it means I'm not around. Lke in the part of the song where it says. "So I'll drive so fuckin far away that I'll never cross your mind, and do whatever it takes in your heart to leave me behind."
    This song has soo much meaning it's crazy.
    But this is too all people who struggle with being bipolar, we've all been there done that. Go to your mother/mother figure, she'll be there.

  4. anonymous
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    Dec 24th 2010 !⃝

    Ok so blue october is from houston as am i, i use to sing along side justin when ttew were no one. I know what th song is about because justin told me... it is about his mother passing and his regrets. And just a interesting tid bit they are named blue october because justin o.d.'d on heroin in october, when you o.d. on heroin you turn blue... i know his monna she lived here in houston till whe passed. Sh is missed she as an amazing woman...

  5. lauraleed
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    Sep 8th 2010 !⃝

    """His Mother and himself are the same person; she symolizes the side he is while on drugs."""

    The phonecall at the beginning is from his Mother reminding him to take his 'Meds'.... (I have to block out thoughts of you so I don't lose me head, they crawl in like a cockroach leaving babies in my bed)...
    Hate me so you can finally see what's good for you... He's convincing himself he needs to hate her, although she's been with him for awhile.
    'Will you never call again' (urges to use again)

  6. anonymous
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    May 12th 2010 !⃝

    this song is a song that my brother says relates to his life. so the way i see it is like this... the guy has drug and alcohol problems, his mom always tried to help and he always pushed her away. "and with a sad heart i say bye to you..." he finally gets taken away. however you want to interpret that. i think that he got like put in prison. but then again i only see it as my brother. and now he is saying its okay to hate me because you tried so hard and i never thought to thank you. and then in the end (not in the son) he changes for the better :)

  7. anonymous
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    Jan 1st 2010 !⃝

    This song makes me want to cry. In the very beginning of the song is a voice singing the words to Blue October's song Calling You...what is that for? Is this song an extension of what happens after the song Calling You?

  8. anonymous
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    Nov 13th 2009 !⃝

    I am bipolar and I live that song so often in my life that it kills me. I attempt to suicide, I tried to run far away from my mom for all the pain that I cause to her, so she can forget me and live that life she deserve. My disease is making her so worried at all time, anxious, sick. I am like a bomb waiting to explode. I want her so bad to be there for me, I need her help but I still leave her alone and run away each time I see that I cause her a lot of pain because of my bad behaviors... (drug, alcool, suicide, depression, maniac periods, ...) I love her and she loves me. I can't live without her, she can't live without me. Whatever happens, we always come back together. Bipolar is a big fight for me and for all friends and family around me. That song describe very well the suffering of a person living with mental illness and the impact on people around.

    I think the 1st verse explain how it makes him sick to have her around when he feels depressive cause he knows he's going to hurt her somehow. Whatever she does, he will still be alone, nobody can understand that need of being alone. How deep he is suffering. It makes him sick to act this way and run away from her, BURNING IN MY PRIDE, and the NERVOUS BLEEDING IN MY BRAIN shows he is getting really bad and depressive, he is ashame that he can't control himself, plus... depression is related to some liquids nonfunctional in the brain... He's getting insane!

    The chorus means he wants her to hate him, so she finally be able to live her life without carrying his pain. HATE ME FOR ALL THE THINGS I DIDNT DO FOR YOU : even a phone call is to hard to make when you feel that depress... you can't do anything for anyone. The only place left is for the suffer. Hell is the only thing you think of. And that is why you get into drugs, alcools, sex, games...

    Verse 2, she's still there for him even if he SEEMS like he didn't care. Because of her love, and his love for her, he gets sober. He don't want to touch drugs again, he don't want to hurt her even more. He wants to try, he wants to get better. He hopes he can get out of that depression and all that suffering caused by mental illness. While he was depress, suffering, wishing to die, hating himself.. She still stay beside him trying to get over that bad time he has to get throught... and he thanks her cause without her, he would be dead. He finaly gets better, but he knows it will come back again, so that is why he wants to drive far away, to deliver her from that pain that is coming back again, soon or later.

    He then says he never been a man because he never acted like one, he never controled himself for all those dramatic reaction he always live with, he never got help, he never grown up, he never took the decision of fighting in the good way. Until he realize how deep his problem, his disease is killing himself and people around him. He realize he don't know how to control those feelings, this anxiety, this hell... MAKE IT GO AWAY... make all that pain go away, he ask for help. He don't know how to make it go away. JUST MAKE A SMILE COME BACK AND SHINE JUSTE LIKE IT USED TO BE... cause there IS some good period when everything feels ok... and he wants to find it back again... AND THEN SHE WHISPERED HOW CAN YOU DO THIS TO ME depression is coming back and some more attempt to suicide and pain... She finally give up and ask him to do something before it really gets too late. She can't stand that suffering anymore. She knows next time, he maybe die, and that would kill her.

    And finaly in the video, you see he goes in the cimetary with the phone (that represents his mother, we know that because of the message she left at the beginning - talking about his meds, probably due to depression or mentall illness cause when we get high, we sometime thinks that we are fine so we stop taking them, and then hell comes back...) so he goes in the cimetary with the phone, prooving he is conscious of the gravity of the situation, he is killing himself and killing his mother.

    But at the end, we see them together at the restaurant. So we can presume that they finaly won the fight. And everything is getting better.

    My interpretation, listening to this song as a bipolar.

  9. anonymous
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    Oct 23rd 2009 !⃝

    well from what i gatherhe has hurt people whether it be his mother or an ex. he has some sort of drug history since he said he has been sober 3 months. this song is exactly what I feel i am going through and am going to put it on a cd and give to my ex wife cause this song is exactly what i want to say to her but never knew how.

  10. anonymous
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    Sep 3rd 2009 !⃝

    He struggled with bipolar disorder, not drugs.

  11. anonymous
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    Aug 10th 2009 !⃝

    I think it's about a schizofrenic actually has to block out thoughts of her because his pride is something he wants to keep and the fact that he doesn't want to be schizo he is trying to push everyone away.

    The bit: "And I fell down yelling make it go away"
    Kind of made me think of that, and hes upset that his mother had to care for him, but pride made him stray from saying thank you, and denial.

  12. centrix
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    Jul 25th 2009 !⃝

    He is ridden with guilt, he thinks the only way he can get rid of it is for everyone to hate him for what he's done. He thinks he's killing his mother and everyone else around him with what he does. Everyone will be better off without him there.

  13. anonymous
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    Jul 22nd 2009 !⃝

    hate me is about justin and his bad drug addiction and him begging the girl he loves to hate me no matter how hard it might be, to leae him behind cuase he isnt good enough for her and cant give her wht she needs. on ttop of that this songs an apology to everyone he hurt during those years

  14. anonymous
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    Jul 21st 2009 !⃝

    I don't think this song is about his ex girlfriend. I think its about his struggle with drugs and guilt and suicidal thoughts, and hes appologizing for everything he put his mother through when he was struggling. I actually think the song is a suicide note to his mother. but I dont think he actually kills himself. infact I dont think anyone dies. But thats my opinion. or more or less just the way I interpret it becuase it has more meaning to me that way.

  15. anonymous
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    Jun 7th 2009 !⃝

    The song to me is an apology to the mother of his child. And the kid himself. Telling him "I'm not the greatest person in the world. People out there are better than me. Forget about how I was never there. Forget it all."
    To me it's deep and saddening.




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