Sam Smith: Too Good At Goodbyes Meaning
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Song Released: 2017
Too Good At Goodbyes Lyrics
You must think that I'm a fool
You must think that I'm new to this
But I have seen this all before
I'm never gonna let you close to me
Even though you mean the most to me
'Cause every time I open up, it...
This is for the person who replied on Nov. 12th at 11:20am. First off, thank you. It means a lot, and I'm taking into account what you're saying.
So my ex that wanted to get back together with me, broke up with his girlfriend for me, but now I'm kind of with someone else. And the boyfriend that I said had cheated on me also wants me back, he's jealous because the guy I'm with is the one who told me he was cheating on me, and I know it's true cause I saw the texts between them, the pictures of this girl all over snap chat, and he openly admitted it to me. But now he's like "you know I'm so sorry I screwed up, and it was one of the worst mistakes I've ever made. And either way it's not like the guy you're with is gonna put a ring on it anytime soon." And like I didn't know what to say, cause like when we were dating he got me a promise ring, and yea we talked about like getting married and stuff, and then just the other day out of no where he goes "btw, you know I got the ring"- like an engagement one. And now it's so confusing, he loved me enough to get me a ring, but he cheated and broke up with me twice which just doesn't make sense to me. So, now both of my ex's want me back, and it's just making everything so much complicated.
But yeah...so I'm dating someone that I've like for quite a while, and he's sooo amazing! Like he tells me good morning and goodnight every night. And like in a way he sort of like me where like he has some MAJOR trust issues. It just feels nice to have someone who's there for you. But other than my ex's getting in the way, there's only one problem with dating this guy...he enlisted in the military, and towards the end of June he'll be leaving for boot camp.
anonymous Nov 12th, 11:20am report
This is for HOPE4BEST who commented yesterday at 3:20 pm and for the person who commented on Nov 9 at 6:33 pm. You girls want to love and be loved. However, HOPE4BEST.. your ex-bf went back to his ex-gf. I think there is nothing you can do but accept that he still loves his ex-gf. If you want to talk to him, talk to him but do not expect anything because he is now back with his ex-gf. If he tells you bluntly that he doesn't love you anymore and you can only be friends. You have to accept it. About the hope for you Hope4Best, yes there is still hope for you. Goodluck to both of you girls - SINGLE BUT WILL NOT MINGLE
This is for the person who posted on November 9th at 18:33. First of all, you are not worthless whatsoever. I know exactly how you feel to be unloved by everyone around you, and to feel like an outsider. I have to fake a smile almost every single day of my life. And I posted something a while ago on here about my boyfriends breaking up with me, and my ex wanting me back. I mean... after my boyfriend broke up with me he started spending all of his time with his best friend (who he likes). And when we were together he told me that on our anniversary that he was going to get me and him matching boyfriend and girlfriend sweaters- and after we broke up he got matching sweaters for himself and his "best friend" which just crushed me. Then, idk I started not to worry so much about it, because he's the one that left me. And then the weirdest thing happened...all of my feelings for my ex came back. And even though I never told him, I think that I still love him. I thought that I still might have a chance to go back out with him, but his ex girlfriend wanted him back- and so now they're back together...which hurt me even more, and now I don't know what to do. But...I still have to believe that there has to be some sort of hope for me. Right? At least I hope there is.
anonymous Nov 10th, 11:52am report
Too Good At Goodbyes is a about Sam Smith being dumped in his relationships. First of all, you are not worthless. Second, you are not a mistake. Third, sooner or later you will find people who will not laugh at you. Fourth, don't worry about being in a relationship, what others are saying about you, and don't worry about anything. Fifth, focus on yourself and what will happen to you the next day, the next month, the next year. Take one day at a time. Sixth, don't try to be in a relationship with anyone and going to dating sites like what is trending right now at yahoo. Seventh, be strong because while you are still breathing there is still hope and you can be who you want to be. - Sleepy Interpreter
anonymous Nov 9th, 11:33pm report
I relate to him I'm tired of saying goodbyes. I'm a broken and empty person on the inside but I try to keep a smile on my face. I was put in foster care when I was younger because my real parents didn't want me. I was in four different foster homes and I always got beat and I used to cry all the time. I got adopted finally and these parents told me I was worthless and a mistake and I didn't deserve to be in this family how am I suppose to feel about that. I'm done with goodbyes. When I try to open up to people they make fun of me so it's hard I have really bad trust issues now. I don't know what to do with my life right now?
anonymous Nov 2nd, 11:11am report
Your very welcome. Yeah, It's hard to try to get someone that you love to stay in your life. Especially when the feelings are not mutual and they don't care back to you. It will only be inappropriate and unnecessary. In addition, we want the best for them. I think you better ask an advice from the person who commented yesterday, the person made a comment on the song Trying Not To Love You by Nickelback. Sorry, I'm not good when it comes to love problems. Made many mistakes in the past and I'm not the right one to help you. Hoping the best for you. Goodbye
Thank you so much, it feels nice to feel like someone cares right now, to have at least some sort of advice to do something. I just, I don't know why I let so many people get so close to me when all it does is creates trouble, and hurts me. It's hard to try to get someone that you love to stay in your life, but when you know that you have to let them go because you also want what's best for them. So, I'm just gonna let go, and Hope 4 the Best, be strong for myself, and keep loving myself- and only myself. Cause I don't see the point in being with someone or even caring if they don't care back.
anonymous Oct 28th, 10:52pm report
In a Beats 1 interview, Sam had this to say about the song: "[It's] about a relationship I was in and it's basically about getting good at getting dumped. [...] I'm still very, very single. I think I'm even more single than I was when I released In The Lonely Hour, so I'm insanely single. [...] People are going to see, this one as I've said is about me and something that I've gone through." - credit to Mellow_Harsher at songmeanings. If you don't love your ex-bf then don't have a relationship with him. People go away in our lives, and we can't force or plead to not leave us or stay with us. Be strong for yourself. Like your profile name.. Hope for the best. Have a life full of love even if no one loves you.
Too Good At Goodbyes is about how Sam Smith feels like he's been hurt too many times before, and how too many people have walked out of his life. He's saying that every time someone leaves him, it only hurts him even more and he has no more tears to cry. In a way, he builds a wall with this song, saying that the only option for him now is to close himself off to the world.
Trust me I know from experience what I'm talking about. When I was younger my father left me with nothing- not even a goodbye, my great grandfather passed way about a year ago, my older sister stabbed me in the back and walked out of my life- I now only see her once a month, my grandmother who meant the world to me just recently passed away, my best friend moved to Arizona without telling me, another one of my close friends decided last minute that he wanted to join the Army, found out my mother was cheating on my step-father and so now my parents are splitting up, both my brother and sister are selfish and don't care about anybody but themselves, my boyfriend just broke up with me for the stupidest reason ever after we've been together for over a year, and now my ex wants me back.
It's just so hard to have any sort of emotion when everything that you love is gone, and everything that you've worked so hard towards is destroyed. As more people walk out of your life, the more hurt you become, and so the harder it is to let people in, and it's harder to love anyone. I think he's saying that it's just easier to not let anybody get close to you so no one else gets hurt.
anonymous Oct 28th, 10:33pm report
This song is so sad! I can relate to him in a way. When I hear this song, it makes me think about how crushed of a person I am deep down inside, and how many times I've had my heart broken. There's only so much that a person can take, you know. And life is very hard. Since I'm "anonymous", I can share my experience I guess. When I was younger, around 11 years old, my father left me. After that my older sister turned her back on me and the rest of my family, and she walked out of my life. After that, my great grandfather passed away, and shortly my grandmother who by the way meant the world to me. After she passed away I just felt lost. Then my best friend decided to move to Arizona without telling me; I had to hear from her ex- aka a close friend of mine. Then a best friend of mine decided that he wanted to enlist in the Army, which I'm so proud and happy for him don't get me wrong, but still... it hurt. And then... things got even worse. I found out that my mother was cheating on my step-father, and so now the two of them are splitting up. Then my boyfriend decided that he wanted to break up with me for a reason that I just thought was the stupidest thing that you'll probably ever hear in your lifetime. Just... everything that I had that was good in my life seems to keep disappearing and leaving me. There is just so much I don't understand about life nowadays. I'm not the typical type to believe in God, but I recently started to. I guess the only reason I didn't was because why would you believe in someone who only wants to destroy your happiness and turn everything good that you had into absolutely nothing. But hey, I guess it's just something that I'll have to accept. And it's not that I want to, but I have to. Even though so many bad things have happened to me, I still gotta believe that I'm here for one specific reason. Now that doesn't mean that I'm going to forget everything that's happened me, because even if I tried I can't, I just have to accept that all thing happen for a reason, and I have to learn how to let go rather than to hold on and move on with my life. I guess that I just have to hope for the best to come. Maybe someday it'll be my turn to be happy. That's what this song taught me... just don't let anyone get too close to you, and that way no one gets hurt.
anonymous Oct 14th, 10:48pm report
Sam Smith is singing in this song about someone he loves very much, but who is a borderline personality, so he wants to love the person, but it kills him and he has to take distance to protect himself...i know where i’m talking about, believe me.
anonymous Oct 11th, 10:48am report
I think the meaning of the song is really simple. That when his lover hurt him, he showed nothing but a strong person, a strong him. That he is way too good at goodbyes. :)
anonymous Oct 8th, 10:55am report
From my understanding,it's talking about a person who's broken by trusting too much on someone.It can be his lover or someone he's into.So because he's hurt by that person he was scare to let it happen again to him so he's just keeping away...or creating a space between him and others whereby he won't be hurt ever again.
anonymous Oct 5th, 10:34pm report
this song means that he has created a wall that has made him not let people he loves not get to close but instead keep them distant and when he tries and " open up it hurts". When he tries to trust this person, they end up always hurting him. So it saves him time to not try to get close to someone and be bitter then be too much in love because its the same repeated cycle to him.
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