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Waitin', watchin' the clock
It's four o'clock, it's got to stop
Tell him, take no more
She practices her speech, as he opens the door
She rolls over
Pretends to sleep as he looks her over

1-She lies and says she's in love with him
Can't...

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    anonymous
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    Apr 13th, 2018 4:46am report


    My daughter is in a relationship with a guy that doesn't deserve her and is an addict. She is 20 and has been dealing with him on and off for 3 years. I kicked her out 3 weeks ago and she tells me she wants to leave him, but it just isn't that easy. She feels responsible for him, she worries about him.
    Truthfully, this bastabrd has crushed her self esteem and dreams. This song has her wrote all over it. I sent it to this morning, after I heard it. I hope and pray she can get away from him.
    Love this song.



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    anonymous
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    Feb 2nd, 2018 2:51am report


    The woman is laying in bed waiting for her man to come home.... and he comes in at 4:00 in the morning. As she’s laying there she’s practicing what she wants to say to him about how it’s got to stop and she’s not going to take this behavior anymore.... but when he comes in she tools over and pretends to be asleep ... probably because she’s afraid to say what she wishes she had the courage to say... He looks at her ....she lies to herself and tells herself she loves him because she doesn’t think she can find a better man ... her self esteem is low ... and she’s been with this “bastard” (as Eddie Vedder refers to him) and feels powerless.
    She keeps his abusiveness to herself saying that no one needs to know....
    She recalls a time when she was strong and and had the naive view of her world being perfect. But the damage of this relationship has left her broken/damaged and she believes she’s unable/unworthy.... can’t find a better man.



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    anonymous
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    Nov 20th, 2017 11:14pm report


    I take it as she's practicing her lies and she doesn't want him to move on and find someone else while she's doing her own thing and has interest in someone waiting for that to work out but until then she strings him along. And feed him lines that she loves him know and he'll come back again if I don't work out



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    anonymous
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    Jul 1st, 2017 7:29pm report


    Vedder has dedicated this to "The bastard who married my mother." songfacts

    Trying to be a better human



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    anonymous
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    Jul 1st, 2017 7:15pm report


    The guy is coming home at 4 - in the morning!! She's fed up with him staying out late, probably boozing and carrying on. She is thinking about what she's going to say this time that might get through to him, since anything she's said before doesn't seem to work. He's still doing the same damn thing. She pretends she's asleep so she doesn't have to deal with him or maybe say something that will start a fight. Because she knows only too well what will come of that.



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    anonymous
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    Apr 15th, 2017 4:59pm report


    Thank you Eddie Vedder for that song ! It has a lot of meaning of how man treats a woman and how weak a woman can be to abuse in all forms. I know from experience and the lyrics it's self can speak of what I experienced and now I'm happy to be out of that relationship & marriage!!!!



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    anonymous
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    Feb 2nd, 2014 2:23pm report


    I read that Eddie wrote this about his own mother, because she was in an abusive relationship and didn't really have power to do anything about it. When he first performed this song live, he was very emotional, so this song really means a lot to him.



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    anonymous
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    May 3rd, 2013 5:46am report


    In my own humble opinion.... and this opinion coming from a fresh experience with "betterman"
    Watching the clock.. waiting for him to come home... the fear sets in..... does the house look perfect, just the way he wants it..."she practices her speech" expain every where I have been for the day... No I have not cheated on you today... she must explain every detail...In bed he looks you over... it's just that... he owns you with his fear that he has instilled in you.... This fear that if you don't lie and tell you that you love him ... he will take more from you and possibly your life..But the thing is she leaves and goes back because he works his charm... which explains the next line.."Talking to herself ,there is no one else..No one needs to know" I (the strong woman within) wants to say somethins but "she" the woman she has become... says nothing because she goes back and knows its wrong .. "Memories back when she was strong" the real woman (I) wants her strong idenity back again but she has been so mentally fucked by the abuser she goes back... I never knew the true definition of this song until I began walking through this very situation... He is in jail now... but I feed him because it has turned into a sick addiction.... Not a pretty truth... but there is no soft coating something like this...



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    anonymous
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    May 1st, 2013 5:36pm report


    A woman is stuck in a loveless and abusive relationship.

    She lacks the courage, strength and self-respect to end the relationship.

    She dreams of killing him.

    She rationalizes her inaction by claiming there is no one better out there for her. That she needs him despite his abuse.

    She recalls back when she was young and ready to take on the world, but now she is broken, afraid and shuttered.

    A tragic song.



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    anonymous
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    Jan 20th, 2013 1:41am report


    This song reminds me of my ol girlfriend, she was so beautiful .shr looked like christina applegate.georgous. but she was in love with her old boyfriend..she used to listen to this song back in highschool over and over. An i know she was thinking of her boyfriend at the time...well lomg story short..she ended up marring him years later..now were all 35 years old..i look back at there relationship as somewhat abusive menally.i think its sad she had to settle for him..ehen she deserved so much better. Yea he's a federal agent now ,and contols her very much. Wish she knew how much shes worth..also she turned very bitter to the world..when i look back i remember her before the world turned her so cold.



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    anonymous
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    Oct 16th, 2011 10:33pm report


    I broke it down:

    Waitin', watchin' the clock
    It's four o'clock, it's got to stop
    Tell him, take no more
    She practices her speech, as he opens the door
    She rolls over
    Pretends to sleep as he looks her over
    (The woman in the story is possibly being abused by her husband. She tells herself that she's finally going to tell him off. She practices what she'll say to him. But when he comes home she rolls over and is to afraid to tell him.)

    1-She lies and says she's in love with him
    Can't find a better man
    She dreams in color, she dreams in red
    Can't find a better man, can't find a better man
    Ohh
    (She tries to say that she loves him, and that maybe he still loves her even, but she can't keep kidding herself. She dreams of being strong and passionate enough to tell him off, but she just can't. She tries to tell herself that he really does love her.)

    Talkin', to herself there's no one else
    Who needs to know
    She, tells herself, oh...
    (She keeps the abuse to herself and can't even tell family or friends.)

    Memories back when she was bold and strong
    And waiting for the world to, come along
    Swears she knew it, now she swears he's gone
    (rpt 1)
    (She looks back and remembers when she was a strong woman and how the abuse has changed her for the worse. She finally tries to leave, tells her self that she's done with him and his abuse, but deep down she can't escape.)

    She lies and says she still loves him
    Can't find a better man...
    She dreams in color, she dreams in red
    Can't find a better man
    Can't find a better man
    (She's still trying to convince herself that he'll change and that she loves him..but she's holding on to a false hope.)

    She loved him, yeah...
    She don't want to leave this way
    She feeds him, yeah
    That's why she'll be back again
    (She remembers when she first met him, before the abuse. She recalls a time when their relationship was based on love and so she tries to hold on to that and say that he'll go back to how he used to be.)

    Can't find a better man...



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    anonymous
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    May 17th, 2011 5:34pm report


    Love this song. My favorite !!! My interpretation is that this woman has not had a good life and kind of fell in a situation with this man who is not terrible but certainly does not treat her well. She tells herself she is in love with him because it's just easier that way. When she dreams in red it's because she knows in her heart he has done her wrong in so many ways. She knows she deserves more yet feels obligated to her situation.... She can find a better man but her excuse is she just can't find a better man .



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    anonymous
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    Jan 26th, 2011 1:17am report


    Before I found out lead singer, Eddie Vedder wrote this song for his mother who was abused by her husband, his step father. I thought it was about a man who is having an affair with a woman who is unhappy in her relationship but can't find the courage to leave it. (Waitin',watchin' the clock It's four o'clock, it's got to stop Tell him, take no more She practices her speech, as he opens the door She rolls over Pretends to sleep as he looks her over...) The first part of the song is the girl waiting for the guy she is in the relationship with to come home. Then when he gets home and opens the door she pretends to sleep because she doesn't have the courage to tell him she wants out of the relationship. Then she goes back to the guy she's cheating with(guy singing song) and tells him that she's "in love" with the guy she is with and can't find a better man...hence doesn't leave the relationship. The guy singing the song is telling the story of how unhappy she is and how she keeps lying to herself by saying she can't find a better man...

    Then at the end of the song the singer says, "She lies and says she still loves him...She loved him, yeah...She don't want to leave this way. She feeds him, yeah/That's why she'll be back again...Can't find a better man...(meaning she can't leave him, but she still keeps coming back to cheat with the singer "That's why she'll be back again...Can't find a better man..." The singer is like "Yeah Right, If you can't find a better man, then why do you keep coming back to me...?

    I was drinking a lot late one night and that is how I interpreted this awesome song. Take it for what it's worth...



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    alyssaATL
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    Nov 20th, 2010 11:48pm report


    This song is about a woman. She's been with a man for quite a while, but she doesn't really love him. ("She lies and says she's in love with him") She wants to get up the courage to leave him ("Tell him, take no more
    She practices her speech, as he opens the door
    ") but she's not brave enough. ("She rolls over
    Pretends to sleep as he looks her over
    ") She can't find a better man than him, though she wishes she could. ("She dreams in color, she dreams in red
    Can't find a better man, can't find a better man") She doesn't let anyone else know that she doesn't love him.("Talkin', to herself there's no one else
    Who needs to know")
    She used to be able to stand up for herself and she used to be happy. ("Memories back when she was bold and strong And waiting for the world to, come along") She finally breaks up with him.("now she swears he's gone") She feels bad, so she'll get back with him, because she feels that he needs her.("She loved him, yeah... She don't want to leave this way She feeds him,yeah That's why she'll be back again")




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