Staind: Outside Meaning
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All the times, that I can beg you please, in vain
All the times that I felt insecure, for you
And I leave my burdens out the door
I'm on the outside
I'm looking in
I can see through you
1TOP RATED#1 top rated interpretation:anonymous Oct 1st 2017 report
He is begging her, in his knees, she left him because she loves him too much and fears this love and gettimg hurt again... She is scared and damaged , insecure and he sees in her the truth and accepts it but she does not acvept her own... She is just like him, damaged, ugly on the inside, broken... He truly loves her, like nothing he ever loved before and he sees all this in her and accepts it without judgement but she judges herself too much, this is hurting them both and keeping them apart... He is driven insane by the love for her but she trusted too many before and cannot trust him, he is the real deal but she cannot see it because of her past
anonymous Aug 29th report
He's telling a story of a relationship he had where he was Trauma bonded to a girl and after leaving he came to the realization she wasn't a good person.
He's finally on the outside looking in and sees her true colors, that she's ugly inside(not a good person) ugly like him meaning he doesn't think much of his appearance cause she made him think he wasn't good enough for her.
anonymous Nov 5th 2020 report
Talking about his frustration of wanting to be good enough for god. Putting his hopes in the relationship and as it says leaving his burdens at the door etc.
then feeling like he's on the outside no matter what he does. And even if he was perfect like god he'd still feel ugly cause he may think that god may feel ugly for the decisions he's had to make for the greater good. There truth in sometimes you just got to pick the lesser of the evils. So hence just like me.
anonymous Jun 18th 2020 report
Well this song was the first song that I heard after leaving the court house while going through a divorce, my ex wife was a horrible person full of lies and cheating. So this done to means how I tried to love her but she never returned it , so I can see through you your ugly like I am because she turned me into a ugly person like her , well that what it means to me he is a great singe song writer love you man
anonymous Apr 21st 2020 report
I feel it's about that inner place we all have. That deep place we all hide from others. Sadness, depression, loneliness..whatever it may be. The person is saying "I see you. I SEE that deep space you are hiding from others"
anonymous Apr 17th 2020 report
I don't know actual interpretation of it. I'm not Aaron.
But for me, I relate this to childhood abuse and seeing my father from the outside. As my father,I viewed him as powerful, masculine,the way I should act,and seek in my husband. As an adult woman now, I see it for what it is. Yet as a child of God, who is sinful... I am ugly too.
anonymous Aug 8th 2019 report
A person, depicted as a man in the song, yet it could also be a woman, who has risen above their addiction. Yet, someone in their life, someone they care about, is suffering from the same pains and distresses that they themselves once felt. They feel like a stranger, looking at their friend from a different perspective, all the while begging them to stop hurting them selves. To listen to their words of encouragement and to change. They continue to try to reach out to that person, to tell them that they are not so different. To let them know that they too can rise above. But, just as they begin to believe they’re making a difference, they realize that their words have all been in vain, because the friend does not have the strength that they themselves had. They can’t see their value, nor can they truly understand the pain that they cause those who care about them, as they continue their self-destructive behavior.
It’s a very deep song with much meaning for me. It’s never too late to tell someone in pain, even if self-inflicted, that we care. It’s never too late to try.
anonymous Aug 29th 2018 report
Lol it's about realisation of who you really are and dealing with it lol
anonymous May 23rd 2018 report
Haven't seen this interpretation yet so I'll add my 2 cents: I believe this song is about the abuse he suffered by one of his parents. Either his mother or father. While it could also very well be of a relationship, I see clearcut heavy correlations between a child reacting to their parent's harsh ways. A parent's disappointment. A child trying to live up to what the parents' want and coming up short always due to their unrealistic expectations. This child realizes his situation and looks forward to tomorrow where things will hopefully be better.
anonymous Nov 28th 2017 report
This song is about addiction and the feeling of wanting to fall off the wagon.
anonymous Nov 20th 2017 report
When I heard the line “I’m on the outside. I’m looking in”, the first thing I thought of was derealization, a psychologic phenomenon in which a person who experiences anxiety and/or depression feels as if they are outside of their life looking in as if watching a movie or playing a video game. They feel detached and emotionally distant, as if they are losing their self image.
My interpretation is that the song is about someone who is depressed or has some sort of mental health problem. He buries his problems and has become dependent on his girlfriend/wife (let’s say girlfriend) in order to deal with his problems. Having sex releases brain chemicals which make you feel good but only temporarily. It also feels good to know you have someone and are not alone.
I think the outside lyric could also refer to being outside a window looking in on /girlfriend with someone else. He realizes she did it because she is also insecure like him. He understands but it still hurts. Without his girlfriend he becomes very depressed at night because he doesn’t have anyone in his bed laying next to him. Yet he feels tomorrow will be okay.
In short, my first thoughts are that the song is about someone with mental health problems using someone else as a coping mechanism only to have that person leave your life. A very difficult situation to be in and one that I’m sure many can relate to.
anonymous Jun 7th 2017 report
It's about him talking to his needle.
anonymous Feb 26th 2017 report
Yes, it's about Borderline Personality Disorder.. Unfortunatly, the cycle always seems to repeat itself. Break the Cycle.
anonymous Jan 29th 2017 report
I think it's about the guy finally looking at his relationship from the "outside" and finally seeing the truth he has been unable to see until now.
anonymous Aug 15th 2015 report
All these years I thought it was about having an abusive parent. Maybe I am wrong.
anonymous Jan 19th 2015 report
A loner in middle school tries to become popular by turning his back to his friends and starting his own group and along the way thinking about suicide. Sounds a lot like my life. Whenever I hear this song I cry.
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