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Harry Styles: To Be So Lonely Meaning


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Song Released: 2019

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To Be So Lonely Lyrics

Don't blame me for fallin'
I was just a little boy
Don't blame the drunk caller
Wasn't ready for it all
You can't blame me, darling
Not even a little bit
I was away
And I'm just an arrogant son of a bitch
Who can't admit when he's...


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    Apr 10th, 4:53pm report

    I feel like this shows more of how Harry felt and reflects on a relationship ending. That it shows more how even though he misses the person and he knows they may want him to apologise he won’t because of his arrogance and he calls himself a “son of a !$/8) “ Which truthfully speaking a lot of arrogant people get called. It’s one of those traits that make it hard for someone to be able to admit and be in the wrong, this can be cause of other traits.

    He also talks about how he doesn’t want them to call him baby, since they are calling another lad baby. A pet name in a relationship can feel very personal and is something a partner can feel is theirs almost like a gift. To say like ‘honey’ coming from a partners mouth. But hearing them call someone else baby is like ‘glass’ to his ears. Something that was his.

    “ don’t blame the drunk caller wasn’t ready for it all” indicates he went out and got smashed hoping to numb the sudden pain from this knock and run. And doesn’t need them to blame him while in this sate of vulnerability.

    “ I know you trying to be friends I know you mean it” shows that his partner doesn’t want him completely gone from his life but Harry is making it difficult for them while being fully aware of their intentions. And he also mentions “ but don’t you call me baby” it is also a known thing that newly ended relationship can have a person still use a pet name for someone out of habit or to offer a form of comfort, knowing the effect this name had on him in different situations.

    “I just hope you see me
    In a little better light
    Do you think it's easy
    Being of the jealous kind?
    'Cause I miss the shape of your lips
    Your wit
    It's just a trick
    And this is it, so I'm sorry“ Shows Harry hopes the person can see him a a better time, moved on like they have. And how he hasn’t moved on and is jealous of maybe his ex’s state of life. But he misses their kisses and wit but knows himself to well wand wants it to be the end of it. But his sorry about that.

    “ it’s hard for me to go home be so lonely “ shows that home something that should confront a person and feel like a certainty has become a place of heartache and loneliness. Harry may have made many memories and can’t stand being in that house that he use to share company with but is now lonely.


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    Feb 2nd, 2020 2:35pm report

    This song is related to the previous song, "Falling", as it is sort of name-dropped in the first lyric: "don't blame me for falling, I was just a little boy". All of the first lines are sort of a set up for when he first says "And I'm just an arrogant son of a b*tch who can't admit when he's sorry." This is almost as if he knows that he should be sorry for everything and that she does have a reason to blame him for things but he can't own up to it because he's "arrogant" and can't admit when he's sorry. He does not want her to call him baby again, probably partially because in "Cherry" he says "don't you call him baby, we're not talking lately, don't you call him what you used to call me." He knows if she calls him "baby" again he's just going to be hurt and he's going to go home by himself and "be so lonely". Although the tune almost sounds carefree, I think its meaning is quite the opposite. I can sense the deep hurt and emotional pain.

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