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Kelly Clarkson: Because of You Meaning

Song Released: 2005

Because of You Lyrics

I will not make the same mistakes that you did
I will not let myself
Cause my heart so much misery
I will not break the way you did,when
You fell so hard
I've learned the hard way
To never let it get that far

Because of you
I never...


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    Jan 6th, 2006 1:52am report

    I can tell you exactically what the song is about because I heard it from the horses mouth. At Kelly's "Behind These Hazel Eyes" concert, I was able to go backstage and see Kelly. When I asked her what (my favorite song) Because of You was about, she told me that she wrote it when she was 16, and it was "sort of a diary entry at first". She said that she comes from a broken family, like many children around America, and she wrote it about her parents divorce. She also commented that she doesn't think that adults realize the effect divorce has on children. She told me that she didn't want anyone to think she was sad or depressed - that writing the song was the way she got over the depression of her parents divorce. She'd gotten a lot of fanmail regarding the topic of divorce, and she said that she thoguht maybe God had her write the song in hopes that children who were dealing with the issue of divorce could relate to it; and, that the song could possibily help them like it helped her. She also said (in an interview - not to me this time) that she discussed releasing the song with her family and, although the song covers a painful territory, they also thoguht the song was better to be out -possibily helping people, than stuck in some notebook. Anyways, hopefully that helps.


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    Feb 12th, 2006 2:25am report

    "Because of You" is about the negative legacies parents leave their children with. They enforce their ideas and bad experiences they've had on their kids without realising the true impact of their words. It's about the vulnerability they create within their children. It's about the way Kelly has been influenced by her mother leaning on her in a way that a child shouldn't have to deal with. I believe Kelly wrote this song for the future generations when we have children. To make people understand the true impact their words have on their children and to tell us it's not ok; kids need stability and encouragement to go out and experience things for ourselves.


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    Oct 24th, 2005 10:45pm report

    It seems to be about a child seeing the break down of her family, and her mother not being a mother. The whole thing seems to be the fact that she is her mother, someone who will not let others in.


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    Jul 18th, 7:46pm report

    When I first heard this song on the radio years ago, I had no idea that it was about a traumatic family situation. For me, it was about a young girl who had a boyfriend who was going through a rough time and all his anguish and mental anxiety seeped into the relationship, so that she was always having to try and put him back together again. I thought that he must have taken much of his anger out on her because she says that she finds it hard to trust anyone else. This was hard for her because it was her first relationship and couldn't handle his problems and the fact that he relied too much on her. There's a line in their where she says, "I cry every night for same damn thing" which I heard as "I cry every night because I see your pain". And, as a more mature woman, she sings about feeling empty because the best years of her life were wasted on this guy. Years later, I heard a girl relate to the song because of neglect from her father, and I was shocked that it could have a different meaning. And seeing the music video now, we can clearly see things from Kelly's perspective. It just goes to show that two people can have a completely different take on an artist's work.


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    Jun 8th, 6:48am report

    Clarkson originally wrote "Because of You" when she was 16 years old as a means of coping with the emotional distress caused by the divorce of her parents.[4] She wrote the lyrics of the song in less than 25 minutes.[5]


    What it meant to the writer.


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    Jun 8th, 6:26am report

    One more comment to Ms. Peltier. Kelly Clarkson did not "slander" her parents as you accused in your comment.

    First of all, she doesn't reference anybody in the song, and so it could be about anyone. She has said publicly it's about a "dysfunctional family." It is other people who have surmised that it is about her mother.

    Even if she has publicly stated that the song is about her mother, the first and most powerful defense of slander is truth. Kelly has a right to write about her life experiences. Writers have been doing that since the beginning of time. Scripture is full of life experiences and some of them are very bad. Do you accuse God of slander?

    Before you wrote so angrily of how Kelly should go to her mother and mend fences and all the things that you said, you probably should have researched the situation and written out of knowledge instead of ignorance. Had you done so, you would have found, as I did, that they have maintained a happy, loving relationship for many years now.


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    Jun 8th, 6:11am report

    This comment is in response to Mary Peltier. Ms. Peltier, I'm a 56-year-old woman who is a wife, mother and grandmother, and I'm a lifelong Christian who is devoted to my faith.

    I am saddened by your put down of this song as somehow being in violation of God's commandment to us to honor our fathers and mothers. I find absolutely nothing in this song by Kelly Clarkson that dishonors her parents.

    We can honor our parents and still be honest about the pain their decisions caused us as children. Honoring your parents doesn't mean sticking your head in the sand and keeping your feelings hidden.

    Clarkson is simply took the pain she experienced as a child and used it to help others going through similar situations. I don't see disrespect in that, I see Christ in that.

    From everything that I've read, Clarkson's relationship with her mother is excellent now and whatever pain was there has been healed. That she experienced so much pain at the hands of her mother and they now have a loving relationship is a testament to the power of forgiveness, something that Christ teaches us to do.

    I relate to this song because of the pain my own mother caused me as a child. She was extraordinarily critical and the second verse of the song rips my heart out. However, I love my my mother very much and forgave her years ago. She and I have a wonderful relationship.

    You know, Ms. Peltier, when Christians are unnecessarily harsh in their judgments of other people, it really makes it hard on the rest of us who are trying to live godly lives and share the love of Christ with other people.


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    Mar 29th, 3:07pm report

    The song was not written by Reba
    It was written by
    Kelly Clarkson, David Hodges and Ben Moody
    Get your facts straight and quit calling people retards


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    Nov 17th, 2016 11:39am report

    I know this isn't what Clarkson wrote the song about, but I've always seen this song as a positive song.
    It seems to me like she has finally met someone who makes her life worth living.
    Because of you, I never stray too far from the sidewalk
    e.g. Now that I have met you I value my life more and am more careful.

    I don't know, just an idea :)


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    Jan 19th, 2016 1:56am report

    Reba McIntyre wrote this song, retards


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    Jan 11th, 2016 1:55pm report

    Stupid haters...speak again when your parents are divorced. And plus, parents shouldn't be divorced. It mentally and emotionally hurts the children. No offense, but it is the parents' fault if they are not liked by their children! They should've though about the consequences.


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    Jan 9th, 2016 1:32pm report

    All u bitches n haters that hate Kelly Clarkson because, of that song Because of u. Can fuck ur faces.. Keep ur words ur n that to yr damn self!! Kelly Clarkson is amazing!! I die to meet her. I'm hudge Kelly fan.. Always have&& always will till day I die <3 <3
    Rock on Kelly keep doing what u do best.. Rock on and make them haters jealous!!
    They hate u Kelly because they ant u ;) :p
    Not everyone can relate to what Kelly been thru. But know I can relate what she sings about... Just amazing NMW <3


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    Dec 2nd, 2015 12:15pm report

    This song really upsets me. Our Lord says to honor our parents, and you surely didn't honor yours. I too come from a dysfunctional family, and I'm changing that every day, with God's help!!! It doesn't matter how we're treated, we all have a choice to make in life, and it's surely not slandering a parent for the whole world to hear!! I too am a victim of abuse, but I would never ever make a degrading song of my mother or father. I know your hurt, and you made it very clear!!! you two need to forgive each other NOW!!!! You both need to ask our Lord for forgiveness. He does forgive you know!!!

    Mary Peltier

    From Clinton,Twp. Michigan


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    Jan 24th, 2015 1:18pm report

    This is what I thought it was about from watching the video and from my experiences:
    A little girl with an emotionally abusive father who never lets her know that he loves her and then leaves. After he left the girl would wait for him to write her a letter but it never happened. This girl is very hurt and afraid to love or trust others. When she grows up she finds herself in the same position as her mom had been in and realizes what is happening and fixes it. In the end the family has a group hug to show that they are now happy. This video made me cry because my dad is verbally abusive to my whole family and me and my siblings have had a hard life. The video basically shows what my parents fights look like. Anywats I am now 15 and I am depressed and I cant imagine ever having a boyfriend because I dont trust guys enough to want to be with them, also I rarely tell people I love them because i'm scared of loving people, I have no real friends at school, and I've never told an adult about my dad because I dont feel like I can trust them. I honestly dont know what to do about the problem and I have a 1 year old brother.


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    Nov 19th, 2013 11:47pm report

    I think it means she was in an abusive relationship (with a boyfriend, a parent, etc.) or that her relationship or family was otherwise really hurtful and left her with a bad legacy, so now because of them, she "is afraid".


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    Jul 10th, 2013 7:29am report

    The video to this song always makes me cry. I come from a divorced home & so I can really relate to her memories. I too vowed not to ever get a divorce. However, I did not choose my 1st husband wisely: as I should have: & he ended up divorcing me. Fortunately though, no offspring resulted. I married my 2nd husband about 3 & 1/2 years later. What makes me cry so much is that we don't have a very good marriage & fight a lot, like the way the video begins with Kelly & her husband. My 2nd husband suffers a very subtle, but very REAL mental disorder. So, as it has been previously been observed that she is 'stuck' in her situation, I too feel stuck in my situation.


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    Jun 13th, 2013 6:51am report

    This is not really about the video. My parents seperated when i was 7.It was horrible. they been seperated for 5 years. and i have a half brother and sister, their dad left them for 10 years without telling them. when my sister found out she cryed every night. i did the same. when my parents seperated it happened right in front of me and my mom said 'thats it we are through' and then my dad left.now im 12 and it still torchers me today. my only wish is for my family together and my mom says that it will never happen but i nevered stopped beliving. now today my dad dont even play with me or my baby brother he is 3. the only ones who play with him is my step-brother and my self.

    i think this video is about when kelly was little and her self held he hand and brought her to the kitchen and all that. showed he what was happening. and her mom shut the door on her and started crying.


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    Mar 16th, 2013 3:07pm report

    I can totally relate to this song. My parents got divorced when I was in 2nd grade and my brother was in pre k. I feel like every child after the divorce has a piece pulled out of their heart. Often they loose a lot o confidence because they don't have stability. Hence the lyric my heart can't possibly break when it wasn't even whole to start with. These kids often take heart breaks even harder because it's making the whole in their heart even larger. Post if you agree with this or feel strongly about it it's something many feel.

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