Kelly Clarkson: Because of You Meaning
Song Released: 2005
Because of You Lyrics
I will not let myself
Cause my heart so much misery
I will not break the way you did,when
You fell so hard
I've learned the hard way
To never let it get that far
Because of you
anonymous Jan 6th, 2006 1:52am report
I can tell you exactically what the song is about because I heard it from the horses mouth. At Kelly's "Behind These Hazel Eyes" concert, I was able to go backstage and see Kelly. When I asked her what (my favorite song) Because of You was about, she told me that she wrote it when she was 16, and it was "sort of a diary entry at first". She said that she comes from a broken family, like many children around America, and she wrote it about her parents divorce. She also commented that she doesn't think that adults realize the effect divorce has on children. She told me that she didn't want anyone to think she was sad or depressed - that writing the song was the way she got over the depression of her parents divorce. She'd gotten a lot of fanmail regarding the topic of divorce, and she said that she thoguht maybe God had her write the song in hopes that children who were dealing with the issue of divorce could relate to it; and, that the song could possibily help them like it helped her. She also said (in an interview - not to me this time) that she discussed releasing the song with her family and, although the song covers a painful territory, they also thoguht the song was better to be out -possibily helping people, than stuck in some notebook. Anyways, hopefully that helps.
"Because of You" is about the negative legacies parents leave their children with. They enforce their ideas and bad experiences they've had on their kids without realising the true impact of their words. It's about the vulnerability they create within their children. It's about the way Kelly has been influenced by her mother leaning on her in a way that a child shouldn't have to deal with. I believe Kelly wrote this song for the future generations when we have children. To make people understand the true impact their words have on their children and to tell us it's not ok; kids need stability and encouragement to go out and experience things for ourselves.
anonymous Oct 24th, 2005 10:45pm report
It seems to be about a child seeing the break down of her family, and her mother not being a mother. The whole thing seems to be the fact that she is her mother, someone who will not let others in.
anonymous Jan 8th, 1:07am report
I hadn't hear this song in a very long time. I remember first time I heard it . I cried so hard , and still do when I hear it. For me personally, it is all the feelings and the way I lived and live in some areas of my life . My father and brother molested me. These words are mine .
anonymous Dec 6th, 12:55pm report
There aren't many songs I can relate to. This one however is a song that makes me relive my past again and realize where my problems come from.
My parents divorced when I was 13. My mother fell into depression and wasn't able to take care of me and my 11 year old sister so I did myself.
She leaned on me, forgetting that she wasn't the only one who was hurt.
Now I'm 20 years old and suffer from depression and a schizoid personality disorder. I can't show emotions and I don't trust anyone to let them see the real me.
I learnt to be strong the hard way, keeping myself distant from others so I don't have to go through the same as my mother back then.
She never realized that the weight she put on me broke me down mentally and now she says I don't have the right to have depression as I had a 'good childhood'.
Because of you touches me deep within in my heart and I can finally feel something. This song brings out emotions in me i hold back for so long. It's like I can finally breathe again and let it all out.
I don't feel alone anymore.
anonymous Oct 30th, 2017 10:41pm report
I was an abused child my dad fond of his fists and a drinker but my mother stayed with him. I relate to this song.
anonymous Sep 2nd, 2017 9:01am report
I can relate to this song on so many levels. To me, it reveals the pain she had dealing with her parent's divorce and how hard Kelly's mother dealt with it...And how deeply affected Kelly was, having to fend for herself...Emotionally and physically and was so alone.
Not only did she not have her father anymore, she didn't have her mother's support that a child needs at that time.
Instead she had to deal with the emotional weight of her mother's sadness and pain, which bordered on neglect and the dysfunctional way her mother dealt with all of that and watch her mother fall apart,
It also shows how that time and experience in her life had deeply effected how Kelly dealt with her own adult relationships, and her faith she lost in relationships and marriage, affecting Kelly as a young woman and into her adulthood.
anonymous Sep 2nd, 2017 9:44am report
I can relate to this song on so many levels. To me, it's the pain she had dealing with her parent's divorce and how hard Kelly's mother dealt with it...And how deeply affected Kelly was, having to fend for herself...Emotionally and physically and was so alone.
Not only did she not have her mother's support that a child needs at that time, she had the emotional weight of her mother's sadness and pain, and the dysfunctional way her mother dealt with all of that and watch her mother fall apart.
anonymous Jul 18th, 2017 7:46pm report
When I first heard this song on the radio years ago, I had no idea that it was about a traumatic family situation. For me, it was about a young girl who had a boyfriend who was going through a rough time and all his anguish and mental anxiety seeped into the relationship, so that she was always having to try and put him back together again. I thought that he must have taken much of his anger out on her because she says that she finds it hard to trust anyone else. This was hard for her because it was her first relationship and couldn't handle his problems and the fact that he relied too much on her. There's a line in their where she says, "I cry every night for same damn thing" which I heard as "I cry every night because I see your pain". And, as a more mature woman, she sings about feeling empty because the best years of her life were wasted on this guy. Years later, I heard a girl relate to the song because of neglect from her father, and I was shocked that it could have a different meaning. And seeing the music video now, we can clearly see things from Kelly's perspective. It just goes to show that two people can have a completely different take on an artist's work.
anonymous Jun 8th, 2017 6:48am report
Clarkson originally wrote "Because of You" when she was 16 years old as a means of coping with the emotional distress caused by the divorce of her parents. She wrote the lyrics of the song in less than 25 minutes.
What it meant to the writer.
AnotherVoice Jun 8th, 2017 6:26am report
One more comment to Ms. Peltier. Kelly Clarkson did not "slander" her parents as you accused in your comment.
First of all, she doesn't reference anybody in the song, and so it could be about anyone. She has said publicly it's about a "dysfunctional family." It is other people who have surmised that it is about her mother.
Even if she has publicly stated that the song is about her mother, the first and most powerful defense of slander is truth. Kelly has a right to write about her life experiences. Writers have been doing that since the beginning of time. Scripture is full of life experiences and some of them are very bad. Do you accuse God of slander?
Before you wrote so angrily of how Kelly should go to her mother and mend fences and all the things that you said, you probably should have researched the situation and written out of knowledge instead of ignorance. Had you done so, you would have found, as I did, that they have maintained a happy, loving relationship for many years now.
AnotherVoice Jun 8th, 2017 6:11am report
This comment is in response to Mary Peltier. Ms. Peltier, I'm a 56-year-old woman who is a wife, mother and grandmother, and I'm a lifelong Christian who is devoted to my faith.
I am saddened by your put down of this song as somehow being in violation of God's commandment to us to honor our fathers and mothers. I find absolutely nothing in this song by Kelly Clarkson that dishonors her parents.
We can honor our parents and still be honest about the pain their decisions caused us as children. Honoring your parents doesn't mean sticking your head in the sand and keeping your feelings hidden.
Clarkson is simply took the pain she experienced as a child and used it to help others going through similar situations. I don't see disrespect in that, I see Christ in that.
From everything that I've read, Clarkson's relationship with her mother is excellent now and whatever pain was there has been healed. That she experienced so much pain at the hands of her mother and they now have a loving relationship is a testament to the power of forgiveness, something that Christ teaches us to do.
I relate to this song because of the pain my own mother caused me as a child. She was extraordinarily critical and the second verse of the song rips my heart out. However, I love my my mother very much and forgave her years ago. She and I have a wonderful relationship.
You know, Ms. Peltier, when Christians are unnecessarily harsh in their judgments of other people, it really makes it hard on the rest of us who are trying to live godly lives and share the love of Christ with other people.
anonymous Mar 29th, 2017 3:07pm report
The song was not written by Reba
It was written by
Kelly Clarkson, David Hodges and Ben Moody
Get your facts straight and quit calling people retards
anonymous Nov 17th, 2016 11:39am report
I know this isn't what Clarkson wrote the song about, but I've always seen this song as a positive song.
It seems to me like she has finally met someone who makes her life worth living.
Because of you, I never stray too far from the sidewalk
e.g. Now that I have met you I value my life more and am more careful.
I don't know, just an idea :)
anonymous Jan 11th, 2016 1:55pm report
Stupid haters...speak again when your parents are divorced. And plus, parents shouldn't be divorced. It mentally and emotionally hurts the children. No offense, but it is the parents' fault if they are not liked by their children! They should've though about the consequences.
Blaneygirl69 Jan 9th, 2016 1:32pm report
All u bitches n haters that hate Kelly Clarkson because, of that song Because of u. Can fuck ur faces.. Keep ur words ur n that to yr damn self!! Kelly Clarkson is amazing!! I die to meet her. I'm hudge Kelly fan.. Always have&& always will till day I die <3 <3
Rock on Kelly keep doing what u do best.. Rock on and make them haters jealous!!
They hate u Kelly because they ant u ;) :p
Not everyone can relate to what Kelly been thru. But know I can relate what she sings about... Just amazing NMW <3
anonymous Dec 2nd, 2015 12:15pm report
This song really upsets me. Our Lord says to honor our parents, and you surely didn't honor yours. I too come from a dysfunctional family, and I'm changing that every day, with God's help!!! It doesn't matter how we're treated, we all have a choice to make in life, and it's surely not slandering a parent for the whole world to hear!! I too am a victim of abuse, but I would never ever make a degrading song of my mother or father. I know your hurt, and you made it very clear!!! you two need to forgive each other NOW!!!! You both need to ask our Lord for forgiveness. He does forgive you know!!!
From Clinton,Twp. Michigan
anonymous Jan 24th, 2015 1:18pm report
This is what I thought it was about from watching the video and from my experiences:
A little girl with an emotionally abusive father who never lets her know that he loves her and then leaves. After he left the girl would wait for him to write her a letter but it never happened. This girl is very hurt and afraid to love or trust others. When she grows up she finds herself in the same position as her mom had been in and realizes what is happening and fixes it. In the end the family has a group hug to show that they are now happy. This video made me cry because my dad is verbally abusive to my whole family and me and my siblings have had a hard life. The video basically shows what my parents fights look like. Anywats I am now 15 and I am depressed and I cant imagine ever having a boyfriend because I dont trust guys enough to want to be with them, also I rarely tell people I love them because i'm scared of loving people, I have no real friends at school, and I've never told an adult about my dad because I dont feel like I can trust them. I honestly dont know what to do about the problem and I have a 1 year old brother.
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