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Song Released: 2006


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Step one you say we need to talk
He walks you say sit down it's just a talk
He smiles politely back at you
You stare politely right on through
Some sort of window to your right
As he goes left and you stay right
Between the lines of fear...

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    anonymous
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    Jun 7th, 2011 6:27pm report


    Honestly the way i see it, depending on a person's situation. I see it as a guy who had the chance to be with the girl he wanted but blew it and now its too late to take it back. Thats the way i see it.



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    anonymous
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    May 22nd, 2011 5:38pm report


    I thought it was about someone dying or something and it kinda is.



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    anonymous
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    Apr 23rd, 2011 4:28am report


    I lived it... trying to talk to someone that had addictions and put themselves in front of me time after time. I would try to talk to them and even had it written down so I would remember what to say. He even would sit and listen and convince me I was the person that he would always be there for. He offered me everything he had to stay...except himself. You don't have to die to be dead. I could not save him and I chose to save my self instead.



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    anonymous
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    Apr 22nd, 2011 4:53pm report


    I find it intriguing to listen to the song as if it were written by the writer to himself. Imagine the songwriter singing it to himself in the mirror. Losing "a friend" as a reference to losing his own identity, or self-worth as a result of his battle with addiction or depression. Just another perspective...



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    anonymous
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    Apr 17th, 2011 4:21pm report


    i think that it's about two really good friends and how a bad relationship ruined there friendship, and how confrontation is really hard especially when they used to be such good friends but he is not willing to listen the girl. i think this is what its about.



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    anonymous
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    Apr 17th, 2011 4:11pm report


    I think the song is about someones friend who got involved with his girl friend, and he's singing about how he can't get that friendship back and a life means a friend. Like: "Where did i go wrong i lost a friend some where in the bitterness" and "between the lines of fear and blame you began to wonder why you came"



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    anonymous
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    Apr 1st, 2011 4:44pm report


    my friend told me this song is about a little boy. He wanted to get one of the guys from the fray autograph, but he was saying he was tired and annoyed or something so he didn't get the boy an autograph. The boy got depressed and mad and he killed him self. So the fray are writing about how to save a life. The boy wouldn't have killed himself if he got to talk to the fray. It's sad and weird.



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    anonymous
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    Mar 3rd, 2011 3:08am report


    This is a song of a first person, convincing his friend to stop doing to kill oneself by doing drugs or to commit suicide. I'll break it down for everyone by quoting some of the lyrics. It starts with "Step one, you say we need to talk" The singer asks someone to talk with him. "|Smiles| politely back at you, you |stare| politely." It's a serious talk. "As he goes left and you stayed right, and you begin to wonder why you came" the talk was over, it is in the first stanza and last. "Let him know that you know best." "Lay down the things that's what is wrong." "And pray to God he hears you." This is the part where he tries to make him stop convincingly, and hopes that he listen. And the third stanza was beautiful, this was when the friend didn't want to, and the person gave him two choices, is to keep doing it and get lost in his life, or stop with the people that he followed doing drugs with. "Grant him one last choice
    Drive until you lose the road
    Or break with the ones you've followed."
    And in the end, he didn't stop doing drugs. He lost his friend either by unfriending him by his friend, or his friend committed suicide. Just read it all over again, it's easy to understand. Sorry, not very good at english, not my first language.



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    anonymous
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    Jan 30th, 2011 1:34am report


    Your not able to tell whether or not it is about drugs or about a relationship. Of course, the people in the song know each other and are friends of some sort but, you can't tell what the problem really is. From my interpretation it has to be about something that is dying.(Obviously) Whether it be friendship, the person himself, or anything. And "You" just don't know what to do or say to help fix it. So you begin to wonder why you even decided to have the talk. And I think that when it says "As he begins to raise his voice", "You" said something wrong and offended him. So you dont know what to do but give him one last choice to put the guy on the right path.



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    anonymous
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    Jan 30th, 2011 1:32am report


    Your not able to tell whether or not it is about drugs or about a relationship. Of course, the people in the song know each other and are friends of some sort but, you can't tell what the problem really is. From my interpretation it has to be about something that is dying.(Obviously) Whether it be friendship, the person himself, or anything. And "You" just don't know what to do or say to help fix it. So you begin to wonder why you even decided to have the talk. And I think that when it says "As he begins to raise his voice", "You" said something wrong and offended him. So you dont know what to do but give him one last choice to put the guy on the right path.



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    anonymous
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    Jan 2nd, 2011 1:52pm report


    Step one, helping the person admit that he has a problem....but one can't force another to admit that there is a problem ergo "it's just a talk." He smiles politely back at you....he's trying to placate you. But you stare politely right on through...you, being a recovering addict, know how people in that predicament can manipulate others.But you're not falling for it. Some sort of window to your right...there is an escape from the addiction but he goes left as you stay right...he is trying to avoid the confrontation. Between the lines of fear and blame...he's getting scared and as all addicts, he tries to put the blame on anyone else but himself. You get frustrated and wonder why you even bothered. You leave in frustration and looking back wonder what else you could have done to help. You do know best because you have been there...in the same situation with the same thoughts and fears. He knows how dire his situation is. He'll make excuses and try to make you feel sorry for him. You can't go there. You try and let him know what will happen if he continues on the same path...and can only "pray to God he hears you." Hindsight is 20/20...had you have known what to do or say, you might have been able to help in some way. He's getting angry and you try to stay calm. You give him an ultimatum....change his ways or stay stuck in the crap he's in. He starts making excuses. You become more frustrated and "wonder why you came." Now you regret not doing more for him to help him.



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    anonymous
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    Nov 17th, 2010 11:07pm report


    The song was written for a boy in a group home in Denver called Shelterwood. The boy was addicted to drugs and wanted to kill himself and all the "bigs" (people working at Shelterwood) tried convincing him not too saying that he would be able to leave Shelterwood soon. The Fray came to Shelterwood and they talked to this boy as well. The boy ended up killing himself anyhow.

    I know this because my best friend's sister went to Shelterwood and was in the same group with him.



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    anonymous
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    Sep 26th, 2010 9:49pm report


    I thought it meant that they had actually learned how to save someones life when..i dont know they needed cpr. but they werent paying attention in class and didnt know what to do, therefore their friend died.



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    JJCrazy
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    Sep 16th, 2010 9:13pm report


    There are many things that people fear and there are many things get blamed for. This song represents how people who try to confront the people who are feared and blamed and the struggle those individuals go through just to get the courage to talk to those people.



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    anonymous
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    Sep 12th, 2010 9:19am report


    My interpretation is how Slade helped a recovering addict but this song means even more to me than that. To me this song means moving on from the death of loved ones and learning to live through it. The music video for this song makes me cry every time I see it.






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